Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I went for an u/s yesterday, expecting to see something wonderful at 8 weeks only to see there was no heartbeat. In a quick rundown, I'm 40 years old and this is my 2nd possible miscarriage in a row. I recently had one June 1st and was lucky enough to get PG again after my 1st cycle. I actually had all the symptoms this time, which i didn't have in the last pregnancy. I dread having the ultrasound because that's how we found out last time that things weren't good. Only last time there was a sac and no baby, this time there was a sac and a baby but no heartbeat. I'm scheduled to go back in a week to see if anything has changed but I'm not really positive about it. I am trying hard to have faith and God would make the circumstances change if He chooses so.
I have 2 other children (this would be my 3rd) and unfortunately my husband has never had children so this is definitely a low blow for him. Of course I run to "google" to look up similar scenarios and keep running across "over 40 chances are much higher for m/c".... and honestly it's just saddening my heart. I feel for the most part I'm pretty in-shape and realize a m/c can happen to anyone but I'm just not sure if I want to keep doing this and having the negative outcomes. Any suggestions on what i should do? I also have a running buddy who didn't start having kids until she turned 40, so I realize there is wonderful stories of those who are able to conceive but i worry it's just me and my body and it's not something I should be attempting to do anymore.
I have 2 other children (this would be my 3rd) and unfortunately my husband has never had children so this is definitely a low blow for him. Of course I run to "google" to look up similar scenarios and keep running across "over 40 chances are much higher for m/c".... and honestly it's just saddening my heart. I feel for the most part I'm pretty in-shape and realize a m/c can happen to anyone but I'm just not sure if I want to keep doing this and having the negative outcomes. Any suggestions on what i should do? I also have a running buddy who didn't start having kids until she turned 40, so I realize there is wonderful stories of those who are able to conceive but i worry it's just me and my body and it's not something I should be attempting to do anymore.
I am in the same boat as you. I miscarried twins in July naturally at 8 weeks. They stopped growing at 5wks5days. I started spotting so that's why i went in for an ultrasound and received the bad news. I was sad, but very positive about the whole situation bc its so common to have one and especially with twins. Well 3 weeks after i miscarried I ovulated and got pregnant again before i even got a period.
I went in for my 7 week ultrasound on monday and again baby was only measuring 5wks6days. They are assuming that I will miscarry again. I go back tomorrow to have another ultrasound to make sure there has been no growth. I knew right away watching the ultrasound that something was wrong. I am just devastated this time. This second time is much worse than the first especially so soon after the first one. My Dr. isn't worried about anything, she just thinks that my body wasn't ready to be pregnant again so soon since i never got a period. I can't help but blame myself for not waiting until I had a cycle. I have several friends who went through the same thing so I thought we'd be ok if we got pregnant again so soon. I don't have much faith that I will receive good news tomorrow. I don't want to set myself up for disappointment with only a little bit of hope.
If there is no growth or heartbeat, I have planned to take the pill to carry out the miscarriage. I would love to avoid having surgery if I can. My dr thought this would be a good option since last time everything went so easy for me.
I do have a 19 month old daughter at home that is getting me through this. She is truly a blessing and is all my strength through this.
I am hoping and praying that we both receive good news and if we don't then we have a fast recovery and are blessed with another healthy child in the near future.