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LostHimOn081611
LostHimOn081611
Well I just passed my one year mark of losing my son. (08.16.11) Which is the day before my birthday (08.17) I ended up spending the whole day in the hospital with my aunt because she was sick. Then on 08.17 which is exactly a year since my DNC, I spent the whole day in the same hospital that I had my surgery because my mom got in a car accident. She is ok and was sent home later that day but I was pretty much hyperventalating the whole time. I mean seriously?! I had to spend the one year anniversary of my sons death down the hall from where I lost him?! I mean I have not done very well this year I have been very depressed and isolated and to literally be in the same place I was last year was horrible! I feel like I have come no farther than I was when it happened. The only difference now is I know how to hide my depression better. I am a mess. All I want is my son. And on top of all that "loveliness" no one gets it.( My husband is very supportive and does understand) They don't understand how I'm "not over it yet." I feel so lost and so empty....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry for your loss; and your bad luck of having to spend the one year mark in the same place as it happened; I don't think I could have done it so you should feel proud of yourself for your strength. I found out about my miscarriage at almost 10 weeks on December 6, 2011 and it literally destroyed my whole world as I knew it; I def. understand what you mean when you feel people think you should just be over; ignore these people they are ignorant and have no idea the pain we feel on a daily basis we loved our babies and we will never be over it but must learn to live with it. I am sorry you feel you are no farther than when it happened; I have days when I feel the same as you but I have better days as well; Counseling has helped a lot and sites like this one as well; I also found these books to read if you are interested in the title of the books let me know. I'm sorry you are hurting and sorry for your horrible days. Thinking of you.
gardensparrow
gardensparrow
Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss too. There is no time limit that can be set for when you should stop grieving for a loved one, and everyone processes what they're feeling differently. But, that's awful that you had to spend the one-year anniversary of your son's death in the hospital. I know that must have made things even more difficult to handle. So, first of all, I just wanted to say I was praying for you.

Also, I don't know if this would be helpful or of interest, but like kayleen86 mentioned, have you ever considered counseling or a grief support group? If not, that might help you work through some of what you're feeling. And, you can usually locate one through a church in your area. GriefShare is another organization that might be able to help you connect with something. Or, I know from working at Focus on the Family that their counselors can also make free referrals of this nature (1/855-771-HELP). Just FYI.

Lastly, I second kayleen86's thoughts about looking into some resources on what you're dealing with. I know there's a lot of great books out there that might be helpful if you're a reader. Off the top of my head, I thought Grieving the Loss of a Loved One by Kathe Wunnenberg had a lot of great encouragement to share.

Well, I hope you feel surrounded by love and support in the days ahead-that will be my prayer for you. ((Hugs))