Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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theblackrose
theblackrose
I started my first period after the death of my baby girl... i feel so sick. Im also watching all my friends posting pictures of their newborn babies, healthy and alive and i just want to cry! my babies are gone and my body killed them both. i just wish i could have held my son and my daughter in my arms and watch them grow. i wish i didnt have to be all alone. i doesnt help that my friend keeps bringing up my dead daughter. i lost her 4 weeks ago and it kills me... i should be dead, not my babies. they should have lived. they should have lived!
RoxyD
RoxyD
They are no words to express my sympathy. I am so sorry for your loss. No parent should have to go through the death of a child. You are in my prayers
Rach301
Rach301
I feel for you, but give yourself a break. Your punishing yourself for the loss of ur babies, but it wasn't ur fault. I suppose I blamed myself too at 1st, but am trying to gentle on myself now.

You wanted ur baby as much as i wanted mine, but life can be really harsh and unfair!

I know it's hard watching all the happy families and ur mates settling down, while ur broken and unhappy. It's like things are so lovely for others, and there so happy, but ur left behind, i know the feeling. I am 30, and people 4-5 yrs younger are easily having kids, but am not even there yet, that's hard. Not only that but people mine own age mostly have 3!

I would be so grateful just to have 1 baby, and i would never complain, even if i did suffer a miscarriage, yes it would be upsetting, but would be happy that i at least have a child. However i hope am lucky enough to have my own child oneday.

You have been through alot and don't say u deserve to die, u sound like a beautiful woman and u deserve every chance of happiness and success. x x
deleted_user
deleted_user
it's normal to feel the way that you are feeling, but it is also very helpful to talk to a professional about these feelings that you are having. Your body didn't kill your babies. I remember feeling that same thing, but that's not what happened. I am so sorry for your losses and I hope that you will feel some peace soon. The pain won't ever go away, but it won't be as bad.