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I hope that no one thinks that this is a ridiculous question, because the more I think about it the sillier it sounds. I hope I don't offend anyone! My DH and I have not been able to take a vacation in a little over a year. In fact I have not had a day off that wasn't a holiday in over a year! By this December I will have earned a weeks vacation at my new job. DH and I normally take a vacation every fall/winter, but were not planning on doing so this year because we would have had a newborn. Even right after the mc we had still decided to keep to our "plan" for no vacation since we would still be TTC and hopefully get pregnant sooner rather than later. Unfortunately after I lost my job we put TTC on hold indefinitely until my new health insurance kicks in, which will hopefully be Oct.1. Lately though we have been talking about throwing that "plan" out the window and just taking a vacation in Dec.
My question is this would/have you planned a vacation while TTC? Also would/have you traveled if you were 4-12 weeks pregnant? The destination(s) that we are looking at would require some air travel. Am I just being paranoid? Also DH had to bring up the "what if" we mc again before the vacation, and said he wouldn't want us to travel if we would really down emotionally. I feel like if we took a trip it would give me something to focus on an plan; something to look forward to. DH have also not really had a lot of time to spend with each other, I haven't even had a day off with him that wasn't a weekend ( where we were working on the house!) since I can't even remember.
Am I just being selfish for wanting to get away? Thanks for reading and for your input!
My question is this would/have you planned a vacation while TTC? Also would/have you traveled if you were 4-12 weeks pregnant? The destination(s) that we are looking at would require some air travel. Am I just being paranoid? Also DH had to bring up the "what if" we mc again before the vacation, and said he wouldn't want us to travel if we would really down emotionally. I feel like if we took a trip it would give me something to focus on an plan; something to look forward to. DH have also not really had a lot of time to spend with each other, I haven't even had a day off with him that wasn't a weekend ( where we were working on the house!) since I can't even remember.
Am I just being selfish for wanting to get away? Thanks for reading and for your input!
Strangely, my family is taking a big xmas trip this year. I would have been about 29 weeks at the time. I've been fretting about TTC which, if successful, could put me anywhere from 3 to 14 weeks. What if the plane ride does something? What if I'm walking around and something happens. What if I mc right before I go? They way I've decided to approach this is we will TTC up until Nov. After that we'll put it on hold until we return. I don't want to mc; I know there's a higher percentage. But I think after such a craptastic (and hardworking year) I deserve a little down time anyway I can get it. You can't let your fear put your life on hold.
Also, I think your DH is being very protective of both you and himself and it's natural to worry, but it sounds like you both deserve a getaway. Just talk through your fears and decide how you'll proceed with TTC and how close to your getaway you want to keep trying. But I think you really want to go and you should!
Strangely, my family is taking a big xmas trip this year. I would have been about 29 weeks at the time. I've been fretting about TTC which, if successful, could put me anywhere from 3 to 14 weeks. What if the plane ride does something? What if I'm walking around and something happens. What if I mc right before I go? They way I've decided to approach this is we will TTC up until Nov. After that we'll put it on hold until we return. I don't want to mc; I know there's a higher percentage. But I think after such a craptastic (and hardworking year) I deserve a little down time anyway I can get it. You can't let your fear put your life on hold.
Also, I think your DH is being very protective of both you and himself and it's natural to worry, but it sounds like you both deserve a getaway. Just talk through your fears and decide how you'll proceed with TTC and how close to your getaway you want to keep trying. But I think you really want to go and you should!