Military Families Support Group
Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.
Hello everyone,
My husband just deployed a few weeks ago and I'm having the hardest time trusting him while he's gone. We've gone through some rough patches in our marriage, and before when things got tough he would start talking to other girls. Things were fine before he left, but I'm terrified that he's going to do the same thing again! I even saw a message he sent to a girl calling her beautiful and saying he can't wait to talk to her again. Idk what to do! It could be completely innocent, but I'm going crazy here! Someone help me!
My husband just deployed a few weeks ago and I'm having the hardest time trusting him while he's gone. We've gone through some rough patches in our marriage, and before when things got tough he would start talking to other girls. Things were fine before he left, but I'm terrified that he's going to do the same thing again! I even saw a message he sent to a girl calling her beautiful and saying he can't wait to talk to her again. Idk what to do! It could be completely innocent, but I'm going crazy here! Someone help me!
To answer your question, it is almost impossible to know emphatically except for what's inside your gut. And your gut is almost always right! From the little you have said here, I'd venture to say you already know what's going on. Whether there's been physical contact or not, doesn't matter.
I believe living in a military family is the worst as the distance prohibits one from really knowing. No face to face, no mannerisms, no "feel". It's just blind trust.
Probably didn't help here. But just letting you know I can understand how you're kind of in a no-win situation. ) - :
I know exactly what you're going through. My husband is deployed at the moment and is pulling some stuff that I don't understand. Throughout our marriage I have found him texting random girls, or making fake dating websites and I have confronted him about it, but it never ceases to phase him. He would deny it, or make just some excuse. You have to take it with a grain of salt...it's so hard. I guess you have to ask yourself, can you deal with this? or are you going to confront him and go on about it?
Your reply reminds me so much of everything I've gone through. I've been there with the dating websites and texting other girls. I've forgiven him and moved on from that, but it shouldn't be happening again! He says he feels better about himself when he talks to other girls as well as me. I just don't get it!