Military Families Support Group
Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.
Can we talk about something taboo? Because I know I'm supposed to jump for joy when my husband comes back from a deployment but I don't always feel so giddy. I do love him and that's not a problem. It's just that spending the time apart makes us a little disconected and when he gets home it's like being around a stranger for a little while. Who is sleeping next to me? I used to stretch out over the whole bed! And when they touch you it's awkward because you haven't seen them and it's just... like a stranger kissing you? It goes away. I know it does. But it's also a little frustrating because they mess up the routine and they don't always help around the house as much as they should because you just impulsively do it yourself.
I don't mean to sound ungreatful. I'm very greatful. I'm happy with him and he with me. I just want other milSpouses to know that if you don't feel amped when your loved one returns cold don't worry... it happens.
Anyways. Mine is back tonight.
Thank you so much for your courage in speaking about this--even if it is something taboo! While I am not personally a military spouse, I have heard several talk about their experience with feeling like this. I think what I love most about this honest post is that it is most assuredly okay to feel this way! I know the women I have talked to about this say that they often fluctuate between feeling this way, then feeling guilty for feeling this way, then the guilt motivates them to take all these feelings out of their newly returned partner, then they feel guilty for doing THAT...and what a cycle that is! Gosh, the freedom that could come from just voicing these feelings as you are doing above.
I just wanted to reach out and say that I hope this post can help others in your shoes to feel okay with having these feelings!
Emily