Hi - I need some input. My brother has been lost to us on meth for about three years. He called me today from jail begging to bail him out - he's picked up on a warrant and is probably going to start detoxing soon. He swears he's been off it lately and I can see some evidence that he's made a bit of progress in his physical space. I told him we'd bail him out if he'd go into rehab and he refuses and says he'll cut me out of his life. He says there's someone who will bail him out but he called me first. When I refused, he hung up.
Am I doing the right thing? He blames us for so much that he's destroyed but I just feel horrible about not bailing him out.
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