Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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Will he ever understand?

cmartin0314
cmartin0314
I have tried to explain to husband the support I need.. and yes I know he is going through an adjustment as well as I am. It has got to the point that I can't open my mouth and say anything that I'm not griping (the way he sees it). Can't express my feelings without it turning into a fight. This is why I've started keeping my mouth shut. The arguments have got worse when I say anything so it's best right now that I not say anything. All I've asked is that he hug me when I need it the most even if I don't deserve it. I know that's hard for him to do, but it doesn't seem like such a big task from my point of view. Or to just speak to me with as much love as does our dogs or as much respect as he does his friends. I feel like I am alone even when I'm sitting right next to him. I know deep down that he loves me, but sometimes it just doesn't feel like it and it doesn't seem like the way i feel about anything matters. I definitely don't want my marriage to suffer or end over these problems but with it being so hard to control it makes it difficult.
vickicrouch2
vickicrouch2
Hi cmartin, I know the feelings you are going through. I have a husband that is driving me crazy too. I , however don't want any affection at all. I want him to leave me alone. And he is a very needy person. He's always been like that but now it's really getting on my nerves. But the weird thing is I also feel alone even with him in the room. I don't want to be touched at all. Sex hurts when I am even willing to have sex. The one good thing is because he is my age he is going through a sort of male menopause as well. I know you must be feeling so alone but try and hang in there the best you can! I hear it gets better. I sure hope so!

You are not alone that is for sure. I have a friend that is going through the same thing only she is 8 years younger than me, crap it's hard enough at 53 let alone 45. I wish there was some magic pill we could all take and everything would get better! lol no such luck!!

I myself have to be on Xanax. I don't know if it's menopause related but I do know I was never like this in my whole life! I never had anxiety before and now I shake and cry if I am not on Xanax.

I hope you are feeling better today and hang in there girl, you are not alone!

Vicki