Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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Fadedgypsy
Fadedgypsy

So I started going through menopausal symptoms 2 years ago just in the last few months the hot flashes started. Hot flash my ass. Hot stay a long time, make you want to throw up and tear off your skin at the same time. Just plain miserable for hours that no one tells you about. My question is did anyone have total personality changes. A little background I am horrible at picking men. If there's one that hits within a 200 mile radius I will find him. Never have I been the aggressor. I have only ever defended myself and that was rare because I was too scared. I know what it's like to survive domestic violence so being violent is not who I ever have been and certainly don't want to be but my roommate/S.O. can drive a person mad beyond any sense of reason. He manipulates every situation he can he's a grade A asshat. And I have flipped my shit on him more than once. He lies and that is what chaos my ass. But that's no excuse or justification for slapping someone. And it makes me just sick physically, mentally and emotionally. This is not me and it's like it happens and I didn't even see it coming to stop myself. Believe no one can say anything that makes me feel worse than I have already said or thought. It's taken me forever to get up the courage to come here and talk about it. I can never fix what I have broken between he and I but no matter what I want to get this under control. Thus far he is the only one that sets me off like that but he's the only one I'm around all the time. I'm not a horrible monster but I have to find out and fix whatever is going on with me. And I'm hoping it's a hormonal issue and I just need a boost of something, that I'm missing and need. Please don't throw a lot of hate my way I'm just trying to figure this out 


    

MelT2020
MelT2020
We all have our breaking points. I try to dress in layers for when the heat waves come :) I am finding that i get more annoyed by things not bothered me in the past. But Ibalso think people in general are more rude post pandemic
hasty_05
hasty_05
It sounds like you are angry deep down. If you feel trapped by your living arrangement, that could be expressed as anger. Substance abuse can make us so angry we can’t control ourselves. It could be rage. I’ve read that menopause acts like gasoline on the fire of women’s emotions. We have to deal with the crap we’ve been stuffing down and start to really honor ourselves. I think this anger might be a wake up call to change and grow within yourself. Seek counseling if you need more help. This is our lives, are we who we want to be? Often menopause gives us the inner push to become something or someone different and seek happiness within.
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