I have the same problem, but otc lubricants does not help a lot, so I will definitely try Replens. To make matters worse - my husband has no sympathy for what is happening to me. He does not understand and thinks it just me that has changed, not my hormones. Even threatening to look for sex elsewhere if I dont change. So besides the depression , night sweats, moodiness, vaginal dryness and lack of sex-drive, I am even more depressed beacuse I don't gest support from him. But what the hell - I'LL get through this!

Would your husband ever go with you to the doctor to hear the truth about what women go through? Guys don't have to get it so much as realize that it is a real and often debilitating time for most women. I haven't tried replens, but I find Astroglide to be a really good lubricant. Also, try having a little white wine or something to help you to feel more relaxed and then take your time. Sex has to change as we get older, for both men and women. It takes a little longer, but it is no less satisfying. I'm sure it takes a little longer for your husband too.

I am very emotional at the moment I think because I finally have the answer to my problem. I need to talk to him and not bottle it all up inside. I know it all changes as we get older, but I know I will have to talk to him and be sure that he also realise this. I am glad I found this site, because I cannot talk to anyone else and this way I can say things I wouldn't normally. I love my husband but I am afraid because this menopause monster has been untreated for so long we have drifted apart. It will take time to put things right.

Gabrielle - I'd heard of Replens but haven't tried it. I'm so glad to hear it works! I like the idea of not having to apply anything during sex. I could use a lot of help in the libido department too (it's been missing since that darn hysterectomy). Did you notice any difference as far as that goes?

Ninnakie...you will feel so much better if you are able to talk to your husband and not keep it bottled up. When I finally came to the conclusion I needed to discuss this with my husband I started out with "Jeff, we need to talk" He was mortified to hear those words as he was not accustomed to them. Me neither. When I began to explain what was up I saw this huge relief come across his face. He then began to explain the changes his body was going thru. We are both in our mid 50's. I could have used better approach words. I use regular glycerin for lub. assistance. I always have it in the cabinet. I still look for something that will help with the libido. I am not suppose to drink but I can tell you a couple of tequila shots will help :) Take Care!

ninnakie - Thanks for opening up about that here. It sounds like you are up against a lot right now. You definitely hit the key about talking and not bottling it up inside. The more things fester the worse they get. If talking doesn't go well, try writing to him. e-mails perhaps. Try reading the book "When Venus and Mars Collide." This book focuses on stress relief and communication for both sides. perhaps you and your H could read it aloud together like my H and I did. Men like it because it is very biological and scientific and gives very practical ideas for less stressful communication.

My H and I had drifted apart and a huge crisis in our marriage caused us to take a make it or break it approach. We chose to make it and have worked hard on our marriage. We are re-discovering ourselves as a couple. If you can get him on board, it is a very rewarding process. Falling in love again is the bomb.

fighting, I have experienced only a slight decrease in libido since starting menopausal symptoms. However, that being said, it seems the replens has helped increase it more for now. Likely only because it hurts libido to be so dang dry down there so staying moist all the time just feels better.

I have thought that if I should lose libido to a greater degree I will try some of the libido enhancing products I have seen. It would take some research and reading reviews and such to decide which to try.

I appreciate your willingness to share. It helps to know that there are options because sometimes it feels like I am cheating my husband out of something that I always vowed to share with him. Sometimes I want to give him a free pass because I feel like I am taking away something I can no longer give him...me.

Gabrielle - Thanks for your input. That's great to hear that you and your husband are rediscovering each other!