Sorry to hear your suffering. I have the emotional symptoms , and some flushing. My symptoms are more anxiety, nausea ( new symptom) , prickly heat ( hot flash?) flushing , hot/ cold chills and muscle tension . I have been to the Dr several times thinking it's something serious. I have had bloodwork and iron stores low but not uncommon for peri menopausal woman still having periods. Plus I was a vegetarian until recently ( 3 years). Finally went to a Naturopath who did hormonal bloodwork. Drs don't study /understand hormones the way Naturopaths do. They always go right to the antidepressants and hormonal anxiety/depression don't respond well to them. Turns out I have high cortisol and low progesterone. The Naturopath put me on Holy Basil. I've only been on it just over a week. Haven't noticed a change yet, still having morning nausea . Giving it the 28 days and than she might add a progesterone cream. My anxiety kicks in which makes it worse. She gave me GABA for that. Tired of constantly feeling sick but I'm told it's hormones and normal. I've been told meditation has been shown to decrease cortisol levels I have to try that. I also tried yoga which was good before the nausea started, I also use essential oils. So far my husband supportive , but does get frustrated, especially when I miss work. Hope things get better for you .

Hello.
I have anxiety too. I started going to an acupuncturist twice a week and now I'm down to once a week. She is a doctor of acupuncture and Chinese medicine. She treats me for sleep, anxiety, depression, overall sense of well-being, and menopause symptoms. I took some herbs for a while too. This helped me SO much! I was an emotional mess. I had left home and went & stayed with my sister during the onset of BAD menopause symptoms and I had Serotonin Toxicity as well. I considered leaving my husband too. But after treatment I was able to return home.
I was also suffering from a feeling of detachment. I felt detached from my husband, my home, my loved ones, my cat, my life and even from myself. I would look in the mirror and not even recognize myself. The acupuncture helped that too. I only feel that way occasionally and it is mild and passes quickly. Same with the anxiety. I will feel anxiety but it will be mild and passes quickly.
I try to eat as clean as possible. I try to avoid sugar, processed foods, franchise restaurant food, potatoes, bread, pasta. No caffeine or alcohol. Avoid foods that stimulate the nervous system. Get some morning sun and late afternoon/early evening sun. Try to get good sleep. Take a walk, get some exercise. I do Tai Chi and Yoga. Do something you enjoy. Try to stay busy. Watch funny comedies and laugh.
But I have really found relief from having acupuncture. It helps the nausea and upset stomach too.
Hope this helps.
Take care.