Met a women yesterday at the book store while looking for a menopause book. I approached her to ask her if she had any books on menopause. She stated no honey but are you going through that too. I said oh god yes, she said she was too, and it was really bad for her i asked her what her issues were she said the hot flashes were horrific and that she wakes up through the night soaking wet, to me, now don't get mad but that sounds typical and mine is so bad that I' have to be on Xanax times two a day, she stated oh that, I take Xanax times three a day. I was so overwhelmed with emotions that I reached out and hugged her she was very sweet and said oh my you are shocked that there are other people like you out here. I told her no not really I have a site that I get a lot of support from but have not met anyone in person that is going through as bad as I am. She said she's been in it for a few years and has gone through a few different doctors just like me. We exchanged information and she gave me the number of her doctor that she said has been a life saver she no longer has the horrible hot sweats she still has the anxiety but she no longer has to change her sheets every morning. I will be calling this doctor in the next day or two. I'm just feeling like I'm not as crazy as I was thinking I might me even though you wonderful women are always there for me I always self doubt myself but when meeting someone in person that is going through the same exact thing as me it was just so comforting . I always when asking her about menopause books I whispered it like it was a dirty little secret I will no longer be doing that and even think I might have more self assurance about asking other women I run into. I won't be whispering nest time either. Vicki.