Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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Menopause - Hating Life

lcs6711
lcs6711

I just turned 51 and menopause is hitting me hard. You name the symptom, I have it to an unbearable degree.


I have constant hot flashes to the point where I have to leave the house as soon as possible in the mornings so that I can cool down and even breathe. All clothes feel disgusting. I might as well never take a shower because I'll take one and be sweating two minutes later.


My anger has gotten out of control. Twice in the last six months I have lost my cool and completely screamed at strangers. I go into uncontrollable rages and scream and break things. My husband is at his wit's end and has been ready to leave me. I've tried to inform him about menopause symptoms but he'd rather blame me and feel sorry for himself.


I've gotten so hateful I don't want to talk to anyone, even distancing myself from my children, which I've never done before.


I never sleep and my job/education has suffered greatly due to chronic insomnia. The insomnia is debilitating.


I've gotten fat and can't stand to look at myself. People who say you should go out and exercise no matter how tired you are should just stuff it. I'm too sleep-deprived to do anything or even care anymore. I used to be very fit and exercised every day.


I have an appointment with an ob-gyn to discuss HRT after Christmas. Hopefully that will bring me to some degree of sanity.


Hopefully somebody out there can relate. Don't tell me I'm depressed, I already know that.

Achybones23
Achybones23
Life for me was so trying that it was hard for me to even make it thru the day! What was the point of living if I had to live that way?? I have fibromyalgia, and having menopause symptoms on top of that made it that much worse! (Muscles need sleep to regenerate. But insomnia just made muscle pain even worse.) Brain fog was so bad that i had to re-read sentences; then even my speech was slurred.

I was even willing to take up the "cancer risk"! No need to live a long life if the quality of life was so bad!

Then I talked to my ob-gyn and found out that the cancer risk with HRT was overblown! What good news to me! Life became normal again with HRT.
GardenLass
GardenLass
Wow. I totally understand. I got a hot flash reading your post. I manage to avoid them, but something new is always popping up. Thank you achy bones for your input. I had a doctor who would have done anything to get me stabilized; Boniva for the bones, etc. Now I am on my way to a new doctor since she passed away. So young, too.
GardenLass
GardenLass
I pray you will find relief with HRT; both of you. I have been at this for some years now, so I don't know how much difference I will experience. It would be nice to get through a day without mourning; whether it be loss of children, diminished quality of life, which is such a precious gift, or loss of family members as my husband and I have lost six or seven in as many years, The most recent being my mother. Most recent change? I can't get through a day without falling asleep. I also still don't sleep all the way through the night The best thing you can do for inspiration, commiseration, and suggestions is to read through all the posts. At the least, you will find you are not alone.
Fay123
Fay123
I totally understand about your menopause symptoms! I have been having a lot of menopause symptoms lately. The moodiness has been the worst. I just break down crying for no reason at all. I hate feeling like I am not in control of my own body.
50-and-up
50-and-up
Hello - I am new too. I'm 50 I also had hot flashes like crazy, kept going to doctor over and over thinking there was something wrong with me. had all kinds off weird symptoms. My doctor also won't give me HRT as my sister passed away in Aug 2018 she had breast cancer. I thought I was loosing my mind with all these crazy symptoms and I started reading up about menopause and learned that loosing weight is a good thing. Then I though well maybe start eating healthy and lose some weight and got this product that has changed my life, no more hot flashes no more night sweets.
This product amazes me to the point where I lost weight, hair and nails growing faster than usual, then i am like one day hey do I ever feel good and just realized no more hot flashes and night sweets either.
Bjay
Bjay
Can someone please tell me if you experience heart beating fast, or palpitations, mine mostly happen when I lay down to sleep.
GardenLass
GardenLass
Bjay

My mom had quick heartbeats and panic attacks with her menopause, The doctors put her on medication for it. She really was bad; she took allergy meds, could only tolerated white cotton, and was on a rotation diet, very little spices and couldn't eat the same food closer that three days apart. Finally she walked into a health food store. The owner did an iridology eye exam and sent her hair off for analysis. Then eh took her through the store and got her supplements; vitamin, minerals and herbs. She started taking them and gradually her body started to balance to where she could get out and do some things. She also walked off a lot of her anger on the beach. So my advice is HRT, vitamins and supplements, and find somewhere to go where there are few people and lots of nature.

Depending on your character, spending time with family will either help you or send you into a nosedive. When your youth is telling you it's time to change seasons, you don;t want to pay attention. You want to stay as young as possible. Venting at the health club with all the twenty somethings may not do it. You may prefer a pond for jogging or walking, a large park with lots of space or a beach or mountain path.
npeddicord1
npeddicord1
I feel your pain. Menopause is the real deal. I have been struggling since last fall and finally (at the advice of a friend) ran to the Gynecologist and got on the HRT patch. That helps immensely with hot flashes and overall anxiety. I also went on a small dose of prozac and was prescribed ambien which I take to sleep. I was in such sleep deprivation that I could not function, and with the pressure of a new job. I am 56 and it is bad. My husband has been a saint, and I am surprised that he hasn't left me, but so far is doing research on the topic and understanding that it is a real condition. See the doctor and maybe some counseling.