I'm sorry you are having a tough time Tuesday I had a hysterectomy and they took everything out so I was put in a surgical menopause. Though I have had everything except hot flashes I suspected I was entering in anyways. I have four sisters and still have no one to really talk to cry and just lean on someone that can at least understand what I'm going through. I'm hear to talk, cry, scream or whatever you need
Lonely Lisa

I read other women's posts and immediately think they have it a lot worse than I do. Hot flushes are not painful but I loathe being deprived of sleep.

Look into Peruvian Maca. Red Maca for menopause, gelatinized Red Maca if you have digestive issues. Make sure that it is definitely Peruvian Maca. Peruvian Maca grown in China will not work correctly. Maca balances hormones naturally. It is a root.

I don't have any answers because I've just started going through this as well. My periods are irregular and the PMS is intense. I am either sad and crying or I'm raging mad. I too, feel like I'm going crazy at times. I've just started researching my options, and it's overwhelming. At least I know I'm not the only one.

Hello Up-Down,
Women who are going through this change of life, really understand in a way that others simply cannot. I think the isolation and loneliness erode my sanity as much as any hormonal changes. Also, thinking that I cannot talk to others, as opening up might lead to some form of judgement or being trodden on by well-meaning but ignorant comments, this has often resulted in my choice to curl-up and withdraw from others. I feel totally lost at times. I feel like I'm dying. In a way, this is the death of my first half of life and moving toward a second half of life. The most difficult thing I experience is not feeling safe in my mind anymore. And the lack of sleep. I take sage and have observed an improvement with regard to waking up with intense heat, hyperventilating and heart palpitations. I feel so guilty and really down on myself when I reflect on the impact on my husband and daughter. They both reassure me that they love me and I tell them how much I love them too, but I feel despair particularly about how my behaviour and lack of energy is effecting my daughter. I've spoken with clarity ( in an age appropriate way ) with her about her mama going through a changing time and reassured her about these difficulties. She and I are very close and I cherish our bond deeply. As one "up-down"to another all I can say right now is, keep sharing with those who empathise and be self-protective- when necessary -with those who are unable to listen. I suppose as I listen to my own post here I remind myself to go very gently and take everything one day at a time. I hope this is helpful. Keep hope in your heart.

I'm miserable too and don't really have anyone to talk to about it with either. It use would be nice to get a little sympathy from someone who understands once in a while. I offer my sympathy to you and by the look of things we are not alone. All this is pretty new to me. I can say that I sure don't like it much!

Hi Up-down I appreciate where you are coming from and those feelings of loss, It is a time that we need to embrace who we are and know that we can find strength in what we are becoming. WE are WOMAN strong and couragous woman of the ages!!! I have always been more of an embracer of things good or bad and plowing through it no matter what. Of courser there are still those days when I catch myself crying on my way home and that part is okay too. It is a part of me. We can kick this and it is not the first time we have not gotten a goods night sleep for months at a time - just like when we had little babies.
Thanks for the inspiration and feeling like there is a group that i do belong to and can associate with.

I am new to the group.....I hate this feeling, at first I thought I was dying or just losing my mind. Does anyone have any suggestion on how to deal with the depression/anxiety? I can deal with the hot flashes.

Hi Afraid. I am dealing with alot of anxiety and also deep depression. I am some better since starting st johns wort and also flax hull lignans for some phytoestrogens. Ive had so many symptoms including lots of pain. I would love to connect with someone via phone or email....if anyone is interested...?

Hello, I just found this site and have taken time to read all the thoughts posted. I cannot believe how many of you have iterated all that I have been feeling and suffering through the last few years. I am 46 years old and one of the only one of my friends to be going through menopause. I feel like I'm losing my mind. The last couple of months the depression has been overwhelming. My brain doesn't feel like its my own. I am constantly tired, irritable and lonely. I want to be the person I was before all this began. Its a struggle not to cry multiple times a day. I rationally know that this will get better but I am not sure how to get through it. I have two teenage daughters so its not easy to be dealing what I am going thru and also help them deal with the challenges of puberty and teenage drama. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and know that in sharing you have helped me.

Elm...It is as if you wrote my post for me. I am 49 years old. While I have been happily married for almost 25 years and am the mother of 3 great kids (including 2 hormonal teenage daughters!), I suffer from anxiety and depression. This seems so illogical to me. I have struggled with anxiety all my life and have successfully managed it with 10-20mg of Lexapro, but something has changed this past year and I have to believe it is my hormones. I find it noteworthy that I was first diagnosed with anxiety/depression in my early 30s while undergoing fertility treatments and erratic hormones. I want to feel "normal" again. Thank you for posting. I find it comforting to know that I am not alone.

I have been dealing with these issues for several years and in the past two years it had become unbearable. I have found solutions that work for me. First I started sleeping on a blowup mattress and have not had better sleep in years! We moved out room around so that my mattress was next to our bed. Because the air in the mattress is always cold I stopped waking up in a pool of sweat. To help with the hotflashes during the day and my depression I made two changes. First I have stopped eating meat (since so much of it has hormones that I need to avoid) and have based my diet on plant proteins. Second I started taking Menopause Support by now, which is a herbal supplement. It is crazy how after a few weeks I began to notice major changes. I swear by it.

I am thankful for all of you woman who are here to support each other. I can relate to all you are going through and rationally, I too know that this will pass, but going through it is still so hard. I can't believe that in 2017 we are all searching for help and finding only bits and pieces. I will pray for you all as I pray everyday that we come through this stronger.

Thank you Mema Cassou for your input. I have been going through this hell for 8 years and am at the end of my tether. In a 12 hour period during the day on Tuesday I had 19 hot flushes! Who knows how many I had at night. I have tried everything and I am either allergic to the treatments or they just don't work. I was very interested to read about cutting meat out of your diet and hope this may be a help to me. After two days I feel better already, is it psychological? I will keep going and find out. Fingers crossed as I am desperate.

Hi, i am sending love and sympathy to all you ladies who are struggling with this season in our lives. I am also 49, have 2 teenagers daughters and have copied with life and its various challenges quite well up until the last couple of years, where I have felt quite overwhelmed with life. Ive always been a positive person but there have been days when everything seems hopeless. At least we know we are not alone and we can share our experiences and support and encourage each other through this journey. I have talked to various friends who have come through the other side and they feel fabulous now so hang on...it WILL get better x