Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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babyrena
babyrena
just dropping in, I just recently started the very beginning phase of menopause.
I am going through a lot of depression because of it. Too much change to fast. Was not prepared for it at all this early in my life.
There was a moment in my life a few weeks ago that I was planning on having another child. It is totally out of the question, but menopause took that choice away from me. It totally put me into a depression.
People want to tell me there is a lot of good things about menopause, but I don't want it.
I can't accept it.
e4now
e4now
i'm in a similar situation except for the wanting another child part...it's hard for me to accept this diagnosis...i already have my plate filled with many other issues and diagnosis' i just find myself wanting to cry and i want to punish myself for being in my position...i want to sit in the corner and pout through this whole ordeal but i know i need to push along and be strong...why, i have no idea...you are not alone
babyrena
babyrena
Thank you! I am the same way I just wanted to sit somewhere and sulk. I can't help what is going on in my body, but I can look at the positive sides of this...it;s just so hard when I was planning another child.
Some things just happen for a reason I guess.
I just know that for many years I said, I didn't want to go through menopause, because that would be when I start to turn old. It's still my mindset, and people are telling me things like "already?!" and "how old are you?!" and just makes me feel like my body is wrong for going through this at "only 40 years old?!"
ugh. Thanks for the encouragement, and it feels good to know I am not alone e4now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know how you feel. I hate feeling the way I do. I haven't seen many positives about Menopause, only no more period, but I'd take it back any day to deal with now.
babyrena
babyrena
Isn't it crazy of hating those 7 days a month, and then saying wth was I thinking. I so hated my visitor, now I am like waiting for it. missing it. wanting another visit. ugh. I am never satisfied.
I had my first hot flash last night. it was horrible. I had my fan right at my feet and just laid there sprawled out, hot as ever. And my children were telling me its cold.
I couldn't open the window because we have a fire here in oregon and I have asthma, and so I had to bear it with just the fan. All night.