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I know I am not out here alone but it sure feels like it. My marriage is falling apart so fast, the problem is my husband won't admit it. He like to continue to play that game of trying to be people we are not and pretending that it is all ok. I really don't know how much more of this I can handle! I can't take the screaming and insults any longer and I can't take the...

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deleted_user 11/13/2011

My husband and I have been married 11 yrs. I thought we were happy. We love each other very much, but a few weeks ago he has been glued to the pc talking to people on facebook and playing his games. Seems like as soon as he wakes up he goes straight to the pc and maybe will come and do something with me, but he will go there in the evening and will not come to bed till like 2-3 in the morning.

He has been talking to a 26 yr old girl from the Phillipians and he tells me they are just freinds, but something deep in my heart feels like they are flirting way to much. hard to describe it. But he makes sure when she issuppose to be on that he is there to talk to her. He even went as far as saying he wants to send her and her brother some things for christmas. We live in Texas. I guess i am over reacting some, but it hurts that he pays more attention to those people on facebook. I feel like it is cheating in some ways.

I am so confused, I guess from where I was raised you treasure your spouse and I guess I need to just let him have his fun and hope he comes to his senses soon. All I do is cry in the evening. and I am going to have gastric bypass surgery in a few months and I am on a supervised visits and the stress is killing me. Been losing weight to fast that I am afraid of getting sick. Please tell me what you think. I am down here and all my friends are from the north and I am alone and scared, I do not want to lose him, but in the same way I do not need to be treated like this either.
Thank you for listening.

deleted_user 11/21/2011

I just had the eye opening experience with my ex with a similar situation. He is in the military and went on a trip to Montana. It was only a three week trip, but after physically hurting me the night he left, I found out he went to a strip club and exchanged phone numbers with another, much younger, girl. I guess I just had him on a very high peda-stool because I thought he would never do any of this to me. This is why I joined the site. Marriage is supposed to be a sacred thing, just not everyone figures that out until it is too late. The worst thing for me is the way he was and is so cold about his actions. I hope to chat with you more.

deleted_user 11/22/2011

I understand what you are saying. To me marriage is suppose to be sacred. But I feel like I am the only one that thinks that. He tells me they are freinds. May be true, but that gut feeling just will not go away. but I hope we can chat soon.

deleted_user 11/22/2011

Well I guess the one thing you have going for you is that he is at least telling you about her. Mine did not and has done this in the past. The trust I had for him shot out the window this past month. Gut feelings are usually right. I had a gut feeling he was talking to someone else so I checked the cell phone records and sure enough there she was. I called and confronted her, I can not stand women that try and get involved with a married man. I have never done this to my husband because I do think that marriage is very sacred, but I guess he does not. I had a hard time with this at first, but I had to get some medication to help me think clear and sleep. Then after realizing how my husband felt about me, I just figured I am going to do what it takes to get me better and took him off the pedistool that I had him on. I guess only time will tell. Do you guys have children together? We have two teenage girls between us and all I can think about is if anything were to happen to us, what would they go through. I have done this once, I do not want to go through another divorce. So I hope the help I am receiving works. When are you usually on line? I am on Eastern Standard time zone. I love in NC.

Sarahhhh87 06/21/2018

I wish i could drive to texas and hug you. Your not over reaction. He's being selfish and playing with fire. Set some boundaries. By talking with her he's not only disrespecting you, but your marriage and family. Dont put up with it cause it will get worse. Im truly sorry your going threw this. Some people can be so mean. This isnt your fault and you have every right to be hurt and angry. Get help for yourself. He won't change until he experiences the consequences of his actions. Your a brave woman to call him on it! Good job! Now take care of you, because you matter alot! Fight to be healthy, you can do this, your strong! Sending hugs

chosehope 09/22/2020

Hes having a affair. Instead of investing in you he is being mentally intimate with someone else on line.

The computer would have to go. One way or another. Who ever he is talking to would not have a resident in my home thur the computer while I sit by and watch.

He needs a wake up call.

HSP 09/23/2020

Sounds like an emotional affair and definitely not fair to you. I’m so sorry. Will he see a counselor with you?

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