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I managed to get the court to order a hair sample drug test to get a more extensive reading for my son. He thought he was just going to have a urine test. He told me that he would have tested negative for the urine test, but not the hair sample. I was surprised to hear that he said he would have tested negative because his behavior tells us another story. I know, also, that he's been drinking --- perhaps that's because alcohol cannot be detected?
So what I want to know is.....if he's been not engaging in drugs the last month or so (drinking aside) does that mean he really doesn't have a problem? In other words, it's obvious he can control it. Should I have him take a urine sample too to show he's not addicted or just wait for the random testing he's going to have anyway?
So what I want to know is.....if he's been not engaging in drugs the last month or so (drinking aside) does that mean he really doesn't have a problem? In other words, it's obvious he can control it. Should I have him take a urine sample too to show he's not addicted or just wait for the random testing he's going to have anyway?
If he's telling you the truth, then your son is probably not addicted to marijuana (marijuana is not physically addictive, but is habit-forming). This does not mean that he doesn't have a problem.
Switching to alcohol to avoid detection indicates that your son feels unable to go through life sober; it doesn't matter to him what he takes, as long as he's high. Many people do this; as a college student I know plenty of people who drink some days, smoke some days.
Your son needs more than testing. At worst, testing pushes people to harder drugs - marijuana stays in the system 6 weeks. Cocaine, less than 24 hours.
What he needs is help with the underlying problems which are causing him to continue his use.
He may tell you there are none, that he does drugs "just for fun." This may have been why he started, but it is no longer true. If he were doing it "just for fun" he would have stopped when he saw that his use was causing serious, no-so-fun consequences.
in terms of him having a problem, some people just lose interest in drugs after their little phase of experimentation. other people are addicts and will stay clean for months and relapse.
"One other thing - your son may very well still be smoking marijuana. His confidence that he would have passed the urine test may mean he was planning to buy some fake urine or system cleanser off of the Internet"
there are hundreds of sites on how to beat drug tests from buying dehydrated clean urin to so call fush out systems. as far as im awhere the hair is one of the only places its almost imposiable to give a false reading, unless of corse you shave your head like me lol.
Im affraid to tell you mom but nothing you say or do will influance a 16 year old boy with testoterone flowing by the bucket load and thinks he is far too smart for any of us olldies to know lol.
The croad he hands out with at 16 will be the biggest influance on your sons life unfortunatly :(
As sugested to you before, you can try and get your son to talk to some of us long term and ex users but i seriosley dought he will listen to some old fart who is 42 years old and far too old to ride harleys and be in a club be cool or even know any thing about drugs ;)
my heart goes out to you hun and HE is the master of HIS destiny and the choices he makes now wont neserceraly be ones he stays with ;)
He is far far too young to be addicted to grass it takes many years of smokeing before it becomes a problem because a habit is formed, it as hard to give up as smokeing tabaco.
i wouldnt call what your sons got a PROBLEM but it has the potential to become one in a few short years. Lets hope he is just your typical 16 year old and is experimenting with different ways of getting a buzz and one of his so called mates od's on him it might scare the crap out of him and then seek for help. lets hope he comes back to mom for that help:)
Best of luck