Lying Community Group
For those who have very deep problems that associate them to lie to those that they love and know. If this is one of you, please join.
PLEASE HELP! I have been with my incredible girlfriend for 2 years and we both want to spend the rest of our lives with each other. For the most part our relationship is amazing and we love each other so much, however my behaviour and lies have put our relationship in jeopardy. Roughly 6 mnths into our relationship she found out that I had been having online sexual conversations with other women. It took time but we managed to build trust back up until she found out it had continued and I hadn't stopped engaging in this behaviour and continued to lie about it. This was 1 year ago now, so it has been 1 year since I have not engaged in any behaviour where I have messaged another person in a sexual fashion. I have continued to watch porn however, and have downplayed how much I watch it to my girlfriend. Trust was built back up until recently she discovered I had viewed a sexual instagram account and removed it from my search history. She says she doesn't so much mind that I did that, moreso that I lied about it. Then again today, I told her that I had viewed 3 instagram model accounts instead of just one, which I had lied about. My behaviour is gradually improving as I have not watched porn in a number of weeks, but it is the fact that I cannot be 100% honest that is the reason I have put our relationship in such a bad position. The most recent lie, where I told her I viewed one account instead of 3, is so insignificant, as I know she wouldn't have cared if I had viewed 1 or 10, but the fact I lied is the major issue here and I cannot figure out why I lie like this. I need help and I need to figure out how I can take actual action to correct my tendencies and stop lying. Thank you.
= when you look at models you see only the physical part, not the personality part at all and even if they post a video its always practiced or acted "its not real", what you have with your girlfriend is however.
just think of this what does the model have that she doesn't have?
-eyes?
-lips?
-hair?
-chest?
-legs?
-money?
-charisma?
-a filter?... xD
all girls have these things no matter the shapes or sizes, you have to really think on what is luring you to get to add that person or follow that person or that causes an interest.
simply try this exercise look thru accounts and honestly there is millions of beautiful girls out there and analyze what does she have that makes you want to interact/look at her (don't add her that is your real test). JUST analyze what causes this urge to want to do what you do, because remember a lot of the women out there who expose themselves DONT DO IT for pleasure maybe to grasp attention (mostly for low esteem) but never for the right reason, at the end the girls are using themselves as clickbait really think of that, and consider that your girlfriend is as just as beautiful as the girls out there but remember she's a model for you, just for you and for you only. So why waste time and energy for girls who "Act to be available" when you are just another fly in the web of another 100 people/users, use all that attention and urges on her so you both have a unique and solid relationship. - but thats just my opinion :3