Hi, I know that fog well its been in my life 3 yrs now.

I had to quit work in 1999 for OCD and depression and fibromyalgia, now Lupus. So when that fog shows up I have to rest for a little while because it tells me Im overloaded with stress.

Please take care of YOU because YOU matter. Talk to your Doctor about the fog, he/she will help you try different ways of coping.

Hugsssssssss

Hi hope.....I feel your sadness. The brain fog and cognitive issues that I have have really taken a toll on my selfesteem. I feel like an idiot most of the time. I cant finish sentances sometimes, forget everything and dont understand squat. Nothing has helped this problem and it is very frustrating. I cannot even imagine having a job that depended on my brain. I would get fired for sure. It sounds like your boss is horrible and causes you added stress that you dont need (or want). The stress exacerbates our illness and symptoms and you will never get better if you are under more stress then necessary. You have enough stress already. Is it possible for you to take a break and maybe get disability? Find a new job? I would say speak with her superior but that may just cause her to treat you worse. Honestly, I would rather be poor and feel better then work at a job that makes me emotionally and physically sicker. I agree with cmeiam...you have to take care of yourself as you are the only one who can do so. You can control how others treat you even if that means getting yourself out of the environment or away from the people. You definitely have others here who understand how horrible the brain fog is. Hope you feel better, honey. Life is too short to have a job that you dread going to everyday.
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I too had to quit work . Mostly because of the fog. I wish you could find another bos who is more commpassionte. . Could you maybe take some sick time to regroup? Wishing you the very best, hugs M

So sorry you have an evil boss. I have dealt with that before while sick and it wasn't fun. I know that you have very little patience as it is when your feeling bad. I had to leave my work situation although I loved my job, my boss was like you said major bi-polar, bully type A person. So I got out of that situation. It was a major downer to be around someone like that 8 hrs a day. So I hope you can find something else eventually or better yet take some time to recoup! Hugs!

Absolutely, I have been brought to tears many of day because I would forget the simplest of words! One of the main reasons I stopped working and went out on disability was because lupus fog was really interferring with my job. I would be on the phone with a customer and literally forget what we were talking about, then I'd hang up and start bawling!

Have you talked to your rheumy about this? You may need to see a neurologist just to double check everything for peace of mind. I went just to double check everything because my memory was getting so bad, it came back lupus related due to inflammation of course.

I'm sorry your boss is so insensitive, I hope things get better for you, you don't need that added stress from that evil woman.

Hugs,
Mel

I think we all feel the way you do, G. I find that at times I say and do things without remembering them. It kind of scares me and at the same time makes me sad also. I have lost my edge and no longer work which has really affected my self esteem. I used to be the best in my field and that's hard to accept. But don't give up Sweetie. We may have an illness but we are fighters. Shame on people who put us under more stress. We have enough going on. But we are obviously very strong people to live with all of this. Hugs to you and bless you for showing true perseverence. Kristy

Hi ladies, I had just written a reply and it is floating in cyper hell right now for sure, I must have hit the wrong key. I just wanted to thank you for helping me put this issue in prospective. I see my rhumy tomorrow and I will discuss this for sure. In order to cope with this I am developing coping skills, such as writing everything I need to do down. I also plan not to be so hard on myself. Beating myself up is just going to add more stress and make my situation worse. I appreciate the advice about getting more rest, I realize that I do not nearly rest as much as I should. I am always running and frankly I don't know when to stop and say enough! Going forward I will make sure to set time aside for myself, to read, to allow myself to relax. As far as work goes, I plan to develop coping strategies as well, I plan to consult a coach to help me with the rough patches. I am going to make a list of my goals and objectives for my health, relationship and work. Wish me luck! Hugs to you all. Hope

Im wishing you luck hope.....I am a very high strung person and hate that about myself. I do not know how to relax either and I cant seem to figure out how to accomplish that task. It is so bad for me as I suffer from anxiety as well. I usually dont even sit down to eat. I eat standing up while doing things. Because I have a very high energy toddler, relaxing is not even really an option for me. The only time I can sit and eat is at 9 or 10 at night when he is in bed. I would love to do yoga which I know would be good for me...I dont do the things I know I should do and that irritates me about myself. Unless I was dopped up on valium (which is a shocker Im not addicted to) I am always feeling like a chicken with my head cut off. So, just so you know, your not alone in this area and I know how hard it is to calm down and relax. If you find any good solutions for this, pass it along my way :) Now, at 9:00 Im going to go SIT down and eat dinner. Lol. Hang in there and hope things get smoother at work.
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hi! wish I had a cure, all i can say that you are doing great working. you have spoken to your boss which is another great thing you have done,i bought a rollon stick from the chemist that is generally used for migraines,when I get anxious I roll it along my temple, just the smell of lavender helps me. I later got put of work as a insurance risk, if i had only known at the time i could have had them for ??? discrimination, no that is the wrong word,see i too have memory fog. love and blessings