Hy! I am sorry no one wrote you back. I am kind of new to this whole support group thing.. Where I live people don't really care about this things enough to form groups and talk and heal.
Anyway... if you want to talk... I'm here and I could really use this group's support too.
So far I thought I was a fairly normal person, just unlucky in relationships. But after I read Robin Norwood - Women who love too much book...it was like someone told me I am this whole different, messed up person.
What is your addiction? How did you hide it? I am just starting to get better...actually...better said...just wanting to get better... but the start is hard. I find it hard to not try to fix everything when it comes to men, or to just recieve instead of always giving... and let's not even talk about intimacy... My goal is that one day I will be able to accept a normal guy who cares and wants and loves me...without me thinking it's the most boring thing on Earth... I hope I won't always seek the thrills of "love" or addiction.

There is no such thing as normal first of all the issue is that there are some basic fundemental things which you may require to sort out in order to break your pattern of habbit. This may require to look inwards and see what is that person mirroring back with which you dont have or that what that quality that person has depending on your issue.

the pattern of addiction may have an emotional component which may be used to fulfill enjoyment and excitement. Then you have a crash like a person who takes a hit of a drug of some sort, thereafter the cycle continues you need to understand your self value by fixing your own fundemental needs and remember only you can make yourself happy and thereafter once you have found this within yourself it will attract someone with the same level of happiness, morales and values.