I see this group is not very active, but thought I would share my problem to anyone that wants to hear it. I dated someone for a year, but broke up with them 4 times, thinking he was not what I was looking for. After 2 months apart, I wanted him back, feeling sure about it. But he had met someone else. I desperately wanted to have him back. After about 8 months of dating again, I realized he was still seeing that someone else. I gave him an ultimatum, either her or me. Well he chose her. It has been a year of misery, saddness & depression. I have not wanted to date anyone else, although I have tried. No one holds me or kisses me like him. I'm sure it is a mistake, but we have maintained contact all this time, which always gives me hope. I have discovered that this obsessiveness is most likely from a poor relationship with my father. I cannot handle the rejection. Since discovering what this is (relationship addiction), & putting a label on how I am feeling, I think I am beginning to heal. Somehow I don't think being a drug addict is any worse. It has been a constant pain for a long time. If I can go an hour without thinking of him, I am happy.