Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
I am here writing about this so that I can get it off my chest, and also to hear advice from you fellow Dailystrengthers.
This past half year has been awesome. I've been traveling, I have saved up money and I met a great guy. His name is Kevin. Though, at first, I thought he was too dorky for me, it turned out, he was just right. He worked rotations, so he would be at his job for 14 days, and then be home for 7. When he was at home, we would spend most of it together.
His family came to visit and he wanted me to meet them, and I loved them. They are a great family and I love how much they love each other.
Once his family returned home, over a phone call, his dad asked about what was going to happen when I move back to Europe in the fall to finish school. I only have 2 semesters of classes left, so that is about 10 months. Kevin and I never talked about it, but he told me that he told his dad that ending things would be the last resort. And I agreed.
The summer continued, he took a trip to Norway for 19 days, was home for one day, then had to go to work for 20. That one day was great, he treated me to a romantic dinner and we watched a movie we have both been anticipating. Then he left.
I wish I would have known that was going to be the last day I had with him.
I had quit my jobs for when he would return from his rotation, because it would have been our last week together before I head for Europe. The week before he was to return, he called me, and said that he wants to open with me, and that he is starting to think that a long distance relationship isn't his thing, he isn't that type of guy. I told him to keep thinking about it until he is for sure. I told him how I felt, that we should at least give it a try. That is a great guy and I would hate to lose him.
That Sunday, a couple days before he returned, he called again. He had decided. And me, trying to be mature about it, and take the olive branch he offered, said that we can still be friends. However, I wanted us to keep in contact. Not daily or even weekly. But through snail mail, since it takes time to send. I finally convinced him (he is a very tech-savvy person, and loves using the computer) to write letters with me.
It has been a week since I moved, and I haven't written yet, mainly because we both don't have permanent addresses yet. But I also haven't been in contact with him in any other way. I still cry at night, for losing him. He is so special to me.
Anyways, I guess I want to ask a question (or a few).
Is it dangerous of me to think that maybe one day, when I return, there is a chance we could get back together?
Should I just let go of him, completely?
I have very high standards, and he passed all them. I can't lose someone like that.
Anyways, this entry is so unorganized, I just wrote what first came to my head. I apologize for the gibber-jabber. But I hope some of you will share your insight.
This past half year has been awesome. I've been traveling, I have saved up money and I met a great guy. His name is Kevin. Though, at first, I thought he was too dorky for me, it turned out, he was just right. He worked rotations, so he would be at his job for 14 days, and then be home for 7. When he was at home, we would spend most of it together.
His family came to visit and he wanted me to meet them, and I loved them. They are a great family and I love how much they love each other.
Once his family returned home, over a phone call, his dad asked about what was going to happen when I move back to Europe in the fall to finish school. I only have 2 semesters of classes left, so that is about 10 months. Kevin and I never talked about it, but he told me that he told his dad that ending things would be the last resort. And I agreed.
The summer continued, he took a trip to Norway for 19 days, was home for one day, then had to go to work for 20. That one day was great, he treated me to a romantic dinner and we watched a movie we have both been anticipating. Then he left.
I wish I would have known that was going to be the last day I had with him.
I had quit my jobs for when he would return from his rotation, because it would have been our last week together before I head for Europe. The week before he was to return, he called me, and said that he wants to open with me, and that he is starting to think that a long distance relationship isn't his thing, he isn't that type of guy. I told him to keep thinking about it until he is for sure. I told him how I felt, that we should at least give it a try. That is a great guy and I would hate to lose him.
That Sunday, a couple days before he returned, he called again. He had decided. And me, trying to be mature about it, and take the olive branch he offered, said that we can still be friends. However, I wanted us to keep in contact. Not daily or even weekly. But through snail mail, since it takes time to send. I finally convinced him (he is a very tech-savvy person, and loves using the computer) to write letters with me.
It has been a week since I moved, and I haven't written yet, mainly because we both don't have permanent addresses yet. But I also haven't been in contact with him in any other way. I still cry at night, for losing him. He is so special to me.
Anyways, I guess I want to ask a question (or a few).
Is it dangerous of me to think that maybe one day, when I return, there is a chance we could get back together?
Should I just let go of him, completely?
I have very high standards, and he passed all them. I can't lose someone like that.
Anyways, this entry is so unorganized, I just wrote what first came to my head. I apologize for the gibber-jabber. But I hope some of you will share your insight.
If he has made this clear about not being a long-distane relationship type of guy then I think you don't have so much more you can do. Not everyone can manage being in a long-distance relationship.
You have to do what you think is best for yourself, and if you wish to stay friends with him then that's something only you can decide. I wouldn't have felt too good about it if I would have been interested in wanting him to be more than a friend to me, and if having hopes for something more to be happening it would only crush me down seeing him getting together with another girl.
A long-distance relationship will work if both parts agree on making it work. If one person has no interest in it, it just won't work. Whether you two will get back together in the future only time will tell. But right now it seemes as he isn't interested in this, so in a way it might be wiser for you to try moving on from this, and continue living as your life developes...