Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
My mum and dad have been married for about 36 years. my mum recently had to fly to England for about 10 days, with little to almost no communication between her and my dad or the rest of the family. and what little ( two short phone calls) communication was as a result of dad calling where she was staying.
now i am pretty famous for stating to my family that i miss my SO quite often, but it was nice to see/hear that dad would state that he missed mum and he felt like his best friend was gone.
the thing that really made me feel normal was when dad was having a moment where he actually said "i called mum but she didn't call me, that is a lack of effort on her part". i have said this a few times through out my LDR so it made me feel like i wasn't some crazy two headed monster when i have these feelings.
i was also proud of myself as to how far i have come and was able to give dad some logical reasons as to why she hadn't been able to call ( usually it is my parents giving me the logical reasons as to why my SO has emailed in days or whatever)
i just wanted to know what makes you feel normal in an LDR? and what are your things/ people who you turn to for strength on those bad "two headed monster" days?
now i am pretty famous for stating to my family that i miss my SO quite often, but it was nice to see/hear that dad would state that he missed mum and he felt like his best friend was gone.
the thing that really made me feel normal was when dad was having a moment where he actually said "i called mum but she didn't call me, that is a lack of effort on her part". i have said this a few times through out my LDR so it made me feel like i wasn't some crazy two headed monster when i have these feelings.
i was also proud of myself as to how far i have come and was able to give dad some logical reasons as to why she hadn't been able to call ( usually it is my parents giving me the logical reasons as to why my SO has emailed in days or whatever)
i just wanted to know what makes you feel normal in an LDR? and what are your things/ people who you turn to for strength on those bad "two headed monster" days?
I really don't get those bad "two headed monster" days. I always miss him like crazy but there are days that it hits me really hard and it seems unbearable but then I just give him a call and I'm ok again.
As far as me feeling he doesn't put forth enough effort, I never felt like that.
I know of one other person who is in an LDR in my "real life", but we're not really all that close. We sometimes have our own litle "therapy" sessions when we can and that helps too. Basically, anything you can do to keep yourself occupied until you see each other again and venting to people who truly get it does wonders. Surround yourself with positive things and people and don't go it alone.