Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group

This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.

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oceansaway1
oceansaway1

Hi there,


I've joined in hopes to find some people to relate with, because I feel that not many people understand what I go through. I am a US native, and my boyfriend of a year and a half is from the UK. We met at a job in my hometown and have been long distance dating ever since. We've spent the last 3 months together and he has just left to go back home, and I will not see him until the holidays. Just in need of some support and stories to keep me hopeful and getting through the days.

niagara1230
niagara1230
Hi there!

I'm also a US native in a relationship of about the same amount of time with a guy from the UK! I totally understand feeling lonely and sad with the distance. What I do is keep a countdown to the day that you'll see him, keep up the Skype calls, and distract myself when the missing starts. Also, try to think about the good times you had when he was visiting! I really hope this helps! My great-uncle always says that if you both want it to work, it will work regardless of distance. You can get through this, just try to think positively!
oceansaway1
oceansaway1
@niagara1230 thank you so much for your kind words. We are booking our next trip soon hopefully. How did you guys meet?! It brings me a lot of comfort to know someone else is going through a similar situation. I try to be super grateful that I have him and such a great relationship, but of course it gets tricky sometimes.
denae23
denae23
My boyfriend also lives in the UK and it's been hard to get him to come over to the US for a visit :(. We have only spent a total of a week together when I went over there a year and a half ago...We actually broke up last year because it was so hard to be away from each other, but ended up getting back together...skype has been a godsend! It's so frustrating and heartbreaking to be separate from them, but if you can tell yourself you can do this, you can. If you honestly feel like you can't do it anymore, tell him how you feel and see if it's going to work long term. I'm lucky in that my boyfriend just ignores me when I get that way and try to break up with him lol. The feeling passes when I'm getting really frustrated, and making a list of why I love him so much really helps me stay positive and not think about all of the challenges we face.
niagara1230
niagara1230
@oceansaway1 We actually met online! I studied abroad in London last year and so prior to it I went online to see who I could find...and I found my boyfriend! It's been really great so far, but I miss him a lot right now. I'm further away than ever right now (8 hour time difference, so when I'm waking up it's afternoon for him) and it's been really hard. I just keep my countdown of the next time I'll see him, and just keep Skyping! But I agree it can get tricky a lot of the time.
oceansaway1
oceansaway1
@denae23, wow your comment really spoke to me. I've had episodes where I freak out and I tell my bf that I just can't do it and he is so incredibly patient and understanding with me and gets me to calm down. It's nice to know that other people feel the same way! Good work on keeping your relationship up though, that is wonderful to hear :)