Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
Hi, so I am new to this website as of today, and looked it up because I needed a space to express myself. The truth is I’m sad. I lie to everyone, including myself, by telling them my LDR isn’t that hard. Truth is, we hit a year apart today and it’s really hard. I just dropped him off at the airport & am stuck wishing for the millionth time that I could have the big movie scene ending where I convince him not to get on the plane.
I never want to complain to my friends because I feel like they’re judging me for doing it anyways. But the truth is I’ve met the man of my dreams he’s just four states over.
What kills me the most is seeing my friends with their boyfriends who treat them like shit, or they fight a lot and here I have this amazing man who gets me and is so sweet to me but he’s not here, yet these couples get to see each other every day.
I guess im on here hoping I can have a conversation with someone who understands what im feeling and can just hear me out without judgement.
I hated seeing my friends with their boyfriends in particular, not even because of the things you mentioned. I got jealous of small intimate things like when they touched each others arms or smiled at each other. I was horribly sad in my low points away from my bf.
I was 4 years apart on different continents seeing each other maybe 3 times a year at best and we moved in together just over a month ago now.
It was totally worth it. I value him so much more than I would have done. I am so proud that we could love each other enough to survive it because believe me it was unbearable at times.
You are not alone, and what you are feeling is not unreasonable. Try to focus on yourself, if you have the time of day. Get a new project or find a new hobby, distract yourself a little and use the time you have because you are apart to make yourself better.