Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
Hi there. I'm new here. I thought it be cool to meet people who's experiencing or experienced being in a long distance relationship. Maybe some can help me. Um this is my first time being in a long distance relationship, we met online and it's been about 5 month being in a long distance relationship. I'm head over heels in love with him, he's my first love, I care so much about him. I can say that he's the love of my life. I tell him that, I tell him that he's everything that I've hope for. He tells me he loves me and I feel that he does. What I'm noticing now, I don't know if I'm over thinking things, there's been a lack of communication. Like he'll text me and then stop texting me, I would usually assume that he went to sleep or he's busy. But he never tells me he's going to do something or is doing something. Every time I ask him "What are you doing or up to?" He always tells me not much, I do get frustrated when he replies with that cause I tell him what I'm doing even if I'm not doing much, I'll tell him I'm watching tv or reading a book. Now our communication is almost nonexistent. I tell him what goes on in my day or what's happening during my day but he doesn't do the same. I didn't have a conversation, like a real conversation with him. He tells me I love you but I say it first. I said I love you so many times to him today and he didn't say it at all. I've searched up LDR stuff and first love stuff just to see if anyone has experience what I am. I don't know maybe I am overthinking things. I tell him everything, I can be myself when I talk to him. He lets me vent to him my issues and I can feel that he cares and supports me. I want to bring it up to him but I'm nervous to tell him how I feel especially how I've been saying I love you all day and he didn't. Like when I don't get to talk to him I say "I guess I'll talk to you tomorrow then. I love you." And he said "Guess so" and that was it. I love him so much, he's the love of my life. I feel it in my heart and if he's losing interest it'll break my heart honestly. It'll be my first heartbreak.
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I really hope you get over him.
Xx
Read it. Maybe it'll help you to figure it out what's happening.
Perhaps my advice for u is to give him some space and stop initiating conversation. Perhaps he might notice and miss u and will msg u back?
I’ve talked to him about it. He told me that he’s sorry about and that he shouldn’t be busy. That he’s able to text me and we did have conversations and the communication was getting better. Then it dropped again. I gotten used to it now. I do my usual and text him what’s going on during my day and what I’m doing. I tend to wonder about things. A few weeks ago he said how I voiced out how I wanted more communication but it that I wasn’t giving it. I felt that I was, he text, I text immediately after he does. Before I met him, I wasn’t texting anybody. I didn’t have anyone to text and nobody ever text me. I don’t have friends. I use to have friends but when we finished school we went our separate ways and no longer close. So he’s the only I text everyday. I like that I have someone to talk to and someone likes my non stop talking and changed of subjects. Those tends to annoy others but no him. But lately as I tell him what goes on in my day and how things bother me and my usual non stop talking. I had went on a whole rant of things that bothered me and I have kept inside and just let it out to him cause I feel I can tell him anything and he won’t judge me and support me, but he told me I was complaining. I used to write in journals about my feelings cause I never had someone to confine in about things on my mind and what I think but journals don’t talk back to you and help you figure things out. So when he said I was complaining, it made me feel bad inside cause before he would encourage me and support me and give advice. He didn’t that time.
Now it’s back to the lack of communication. And less phone time also. My fear is that he’s slowly getting annoyed and losing interest. I try not to think about it cause I don’t want believe that could happen. Another fear is just that he’s losing interest but doesn’t want to say it and is just putting up with me. That would hurt more if it were that.
I love him. I feel god put him in my path cause all I wanted was someone to love me for me with all my flaws and greats. Cause I never had that. I’m pretty much a loser honestly. If he has lost interest in me, it’ll break my heart.