Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group

This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.

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kelseycapozzo
kelseycapozzo

i recently visited my bf he's in Louisiana and i'm in Michigan. we've been together for a year and have been thru everything together and are extremely close. after leaving him this past weekend i have felt a numb feeling, i have no emotion towards anyone or anything and i feel lost everyday.  has anyone ever dealt with a feeling of numbness or the pain and how do you cope with it or at least ease your mind a little bit to make it thru the days ? 

snicoleanderson
snicoleanderson
I live in Indiana and my bf is in Utah. I feel this way a lot after we spend time together. Everything starts feeling normal and comfortable and then we part ways and what my actual normal life is feels like it makes no sense. After a couple rounds of this there are definitely times that I get numb to everything. I have tried to find different things that occupy my time and help keep my grounded. It also helps me to know that one day we will be living in the same house together, just not yet. I do my best to think of it as he is just away working and will be home soon. Finding ways to make that a reality is helpful. However, I'm not exactly sure what your situation is, but I'm always available to talk!
lottiej
lottiej
Hi,
I feel like everyone feels this when they say goodbye to their partner and know it's going to be a long time before hey see each other again! A way I've found helps is having me and my partner call each other at a set time everyday. If we can't make that time we always arrange in advance a different time instead. The fact that I know we're going to speak honestly helps so much. Before the call I try and stay busy and look forward to it. After I speak to him I always feel better.
Not sure if this will help but it makes me feel a lot more calm and helps me get on with the rest of my life. The first few weeks are the hardest, so just think you've already made it through the worst part!!
kelseycapozzo
kelseycapozzo
Thank you so much for your advice and positive words!
loonyluna
loonyluna
This is exactly how I've been feeling lately. I went to visit my BF a couple of weeks ago and since I've been back I just can't shake the "I don't wanna" feeling. Its worse because I am not sure if there will be a chance for me to see him between now and December. That just feels too far away.
Generally I am able to appreciate that I have a wonderful life here, even though he is far, but as of now I am just like "ehh whatever, I don't care about any of this sh*t" I have fun with friends or with my family, but as soon as I am alone I feel numb and empty. Hope is hard to hold onto, its frustrating.