I'm only 22 but i know i wouldn't be able to handle that if we were married and only see each other on weekends. If she didn't want to leave her job then i'd gladly leave mine to be with her and find something in her area.

It wouldn't work for us, once we're no longer in a LDR, we don't only want us to be together on weekends. When I'm living with him in NC, I'll be traveling back to PA for weeks at a time every few months, the reverse of what I'm doing now with traveling from PA to NC all the time and it's going to be hard for both of us being away from each other 3 or 4 weeks at a time every few months. If it were me, I would find work closer to home or him closer to where I am so we can be together all week.

I know a couple that do what you're doing, they own a home in both areas and see each other every weekend taking turns with the traveling. It works out well for them.

If it's fine with you and your husband then it's the right thing to do. If he's not happy with this arrangement, the two of you need to talk about it and see if there's some kind of compromise that will work for the two of you.

I don't see anything wrong with any kind of relationship arrangements, there is no right or wrong. If it works for the two people involved and they're happy then that's all that matters.

I agree with Leather completely...as long as it works for you...there is no right or wrong way. After enduring the strains of an LDR for long enough, I wouldn't personally move farther away from him for a job...or any other reason. But then again, that's just me being biased. I'm fortunate in that I can find work in almost any state in the country due to the nature of my profession given enough time in this economy. Is there any way you can still work and be closer to him? I completely agree that you should have your own space and choose to work outside the home if you want, but maybe it's possible to have it both ways...him still keeping his job, you getting another that doesn't keep you apart, and your relationship not suffering because of the distance during the week.

I'm about to come to a point similar to this in my relationship also. I know Richard makes enough to support us both and he wants me to move to be closer to him (from Cali to Hawaii). But I feel like I need to have a job regardless of if he can support me or not. Leaving my job at home will be tough, and jobs are very hard to find for me because I am young and still starting out in my career.
So I think I'd rather wait until I can find a way to have a job closer to him before I agree to moving closer.

It depends on how you two feel about your situation. If either of you are unhappy then something would need to change, however if both of you are happy then I say why not. My cousin is a merchant marine and is gone for 4 weeks then home for 4 weeks while his wife stays at home with their 4 kids and that works for them.

If I was unhappy, I would leave my job to live with my husband. If it's important for you to make your own money, look for jobs in his city and maybe make the move once a job opens up. If you think you could be comfortable being a housewife, or getting a part time job or maybe an eventual stay at home mom then I say move now and sort the rest out later.

I guess my point is, do what makes you happy first (seeing as the finances are not an issue) and the rest will fall into place.