Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group

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I need serious help

SarcasticAsshole
SarcasticAsshole

hey guys I'm new here, and I need as much advice as you can offer! Ima teen and I came across this beautiful girl on Instagram and we started talking and now we talk everyday! I've fallen in love with her (for the sake of this post let's call her "Kim") after a bad breakup with this girl I thought loved me a few years ago I've sworn to myself to these rules! 


1. You can't catch feelings if you don't have any 


2. Can't get hurt if you don't have feelings to express your pain with


life has been very miserable and lonely and I don't care! But now that I think about it I want Kim and I can't stop thinking about it! She lives in California and I live in Louisiana which sucks! But for some stupid reason after I promised myself I wouldn't tell her I love her! I slipped and I did it anyway! (Ima real dumb ass) well it turns out Kim sees me as a close friend! And to that I say FUCK THE FRIEND ZONE! I want Kim and I'm determined to do "almost whatever" to get her! Now tell me experienced elderly how do I do it? 

BlueLilly1
BlueLilly1
oh dear, I admire your determination but speaking from experience - if you have been friendzoned...you sit and wait it out before jumping back in. Hopefully she doesn't push you away (because we're chicks, we hit the panic button and run sometimes) but I personally have a girl friend that has freaked out many times when a really close guy friend she likes hanging with - tells her they like her before she's ready.

All I can recommend is continue to be there for her, I think you need to work on your friendship more before you jump back in again. Avoid saying I love you unless you really can't help it. But it might make her feel uncomfortable when you do and push her away. If you haven't met in real life that could also be a problem - she's probably too afraid to say it when a) she hasn't met you in person and b) she's not ready. Who knows, maybe if you did meet in person she'd feel the spark even more?

Just don't rush anything!!! But great determination, especially if you really care for her
Taki
Taki
You "want" Kim. You don't "love" her. If you did, you'd care about HER feelings and her happiness, which means respecting her choice. Don't try to force your feelings on someone who has clearly stated she doesn't want them.