Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
My girlfriend was suppose to come and see me this weekend from Friday until Monday. We had everything planned but now she's like oh my mom won't let me go and stuff even though her mom said yes last week. She's almost 20 and still cares about what her mom thinks. Like grow up. She's just giving me excuses and bullshit trying to blame everybody but herself and then when I tell her I'm upset she freaks on me and swears. I'm like this weekend would have been perfect because we would be alone and it would be the first time we meet. I'm so upset I just want to die I don't feel good enough or anything. She's like well there will be other weekends but I told her why this weekend would be best but she doesn't get it. And then on the weekend she was with her "best friend" who is a guy that she hangs out with a lot apparently he likes another girl but I'm positive he likes my girlfriend. I don't know what to do my mind is all over the place and stuff I really just feel like breaking up with her. She asked me to be her boyfriend so quick and stuff and she just recently told me she has PCOS disease I'm like really you couldn't have told me before you asked me out? like what the fuck.
The male best friend, if you trust her then you wouldn't be worried about her spending time with him. Males and females can be just friends with no attraction for each other in other ways.
Does she live with her mom and does her mom support her financially? If so, then it's her mom's house, her mom's rules. If that's a problem for her, she's 20 years old, she can move out and support herself and not worry about what her mom says.
When in a LDR, you have to learn to deal with disappointments, plans of getting together not working out, it's all a part of being in a LDR. I had plans of going to see my partner late September but I had to postpone those plans and I never got there until the end of October. He was disappointed but he was not angry at me at all because I had to cancel. I was disappointed too but that's the way things go at times with LDRs.
LDRs are difficult, you need to be able to handle dissapointments, handle missing each other, be able to deal with the downside of being in a LDR. If you can't handle these things and if you don't have 100% mutual trust in each other, you're probably better off not being in a LDR.
Unfortunately, if she's still dependent upon her mom, she has to abide by her rules. LDRs aren't for everyone and if you feel as if she's making excuses to not see you and that something may be going on with another guy, then it's for the best you know now before investing months or even years into her.
Best of luck to you in whatever you choose to do.