What happened in past relationships shouldn't interfere with a current relationship.

Problems in a relationship can't just be swept under the rug, the couple needs to be honest with each other, talk about whatever problems there are and work on them together as a couple to fix whatever it is.

Well I'm not trying to hide them, we know exactly what's wrong. It just makes it hard to right the wrong because he doesn't live here nor I there, so the support system isn't very good. My emotions are very high strung and damaged because of what has happened in my past relationships is what I mean, and it's even worse after the ordeal that has happened to us and I think what it is is resentment and slight hate towards is what I'm feeling, but he can't help me emotionally because he's not here and I've finally had to tell him that I'm just not ready to be in a relationship because I'm tired of constantly crying over him and acting like a psycho bitch when it isn't needed. It hurt him to hear it, but until I've "forgiven him" for what he has done, it'll keep being a vicious hot/cold circle and that just isn't healthy.......... And who knows, maybe someone who's better will come along for one of us.... Although it's not what I wish...

there a song by tlc called damaged i suggest you listen to it,the song is like my theme song, but anyways I went through this with a ex bf he did something I never could forgive him for with his ex gf due to the fact i'm 100% against what they did. that wasn't the only thing he did to end the relationship a lot of other stuff happen within it.If you can't talk to each other without one getting mad or upset get outta the relationship now. like leather said problems in relationship can't be swept under the rug.

I probably should have waited to listen to that song because I almost started crying in front of people at school. Yeah I know I can't run from my problems and I think that's what I've been doing. Thinking that if the physical ones just went away, then the emotional ones would follow, and they don't.....

Whatever happened in past relationships you need to heal from the hurt and then leave it in the past where it belongs so it doesn't affect future relationships. Past relationship baggage doesn't belong in a new relationship.

As for any future relationship with him or someone else, I agree with Brandnewangel, if a couple can't talk rationally with each other about problems and work together as a couple there's not much hope for the relationship.

I'm sorry to hear you decided to break it off with him but it might be for the best. Fighting, crying, resentments, hate, those things don't make a healthy relationship. Take time to heal your hurts so you can finally be able to put them behind you and move on from them. Once you can do that, any relationship you get into will be started on a clean slate which is where a relationship should start.

That's what I'm doing and I've noticed that I feel much better. Least for now. We still talk, and just like how we use to, but somehow it just feels different. It just feels like I can heal now and it's nice.