Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
This community is a place where you can share your long distance challenges and triumphs, vent, give long distance tips and ideas, or just get support from people like you who are going through the same thing. Whether you live a couple hours away or a couple continents away, the specific challenges that face a long distance relationship are unique and difficult.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. He was coming in December to visit me and stay with me for 6 months...He told me his best friend confessed feelings for him and he said he returned them because he recently likes her...He wants to try dating her (they're going out on their second date in 3 weeks) to see if they want more...:'( he said he wants physical contact really bad. Yet, he was telling me that there's still a chance for us. He's flirting with his friend AND also me. He's sending me hearts. He said that when he comes here, he'll give me that chance of being together with him and see if he wants me more...I don't know what to do. All my friends are saying he's being selfish and making excused:'( I want to wait for him and it will be hard to get over him since we were together for so long. I don't get why he can't wait those 5 more months (which will be down to 4 months soon). I'm in so much pain right now...I'm hoping he doesn't want more with his friend. Every time I try telling him how I feel about his, he goes off at me saying that he's under so much pressure by deciding...He told me that he will miss the times we have together and is already missing them. Him and his best friend expect me to still be friends with both of them. It's selfish but he is one of the things that went right in my life...how can I get him back? How can I make him see everything that he's throwing away..? I hope his best friend screws it up with him and that he doesn't want more. I'm so nervous...My body isn't letting me eat or drink anything every time I think of this. I can't ever get my mind off this and I'm hurting so bad...:'( I need help and advice....:'(
He doesn't deserve you hun, nobody deserves to be treated like that.
Best not to be in a relationship with a guy with a wandering eye and who acts on it.
1).........I agree with the others, you deserve to be #1 in a partner's life. A partner loves you, you will be #1 in his life, he won't be comparing you to others, he won't want to be with another to see who he likes better, he will already know you are the one he wants to be with.
2).......I see by your profile you're 16 years old. How old is your b/f? I'm assuming he's also young, in his teens? In his defense, being that young, he might not know what he wants in a partner, in a relationship yet, who he wants to be with for the rest of his because neither of you have experienced an adult relationship or an adult life yet. He's still finding out who he is, what he wants for his life and figuring all that out includes finding out what he wants in a relationship and a life partner.
My advice, let him go, let him date others and you do the same. You might find after dating others that he's not what you wanted either. Young love is wonderful, it's exciting, it's new but it's very different from adult love because we're different people when we're adults than when we were teens. Our wants and needs change as we grow in many ways including what we want in a partner and in a relationship.