Sounds like my situation. About a year ago, I stumbled across my darlin. We started chatting online and within a few days, I /knew/ that I was in love with him. Dont laugh, I know it doesnt sound very valid. But it was honestly love at first, uh, talk? [haha] Anyways. I live in Alaska and he lives allll the way over in Pennsylvania. So, we are thousands of miles away from each other. We have stayed super close this entire time, [A whole year!] and he makes my life worth living. ---- Anyways. Enough of my ranting. Bottom line, I think that there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing. It can be the best time of your life if you let it! Just be careful and know that you can trust her before you give her too much of yourself. It takes a while to get used to a LDR. Lots of jealously and misunderstanding to work through, just a warning. I wish you guys the best of luck!

I met my partner on-line 4 1/2 years ago, we talked on-line and by phone for about 7 months before we finally had the opportunity to meet in-person. We're 10 hours away from each other. For the last 4 1/2 years, we see each other every few months and we spend a month together each visit.

Before meeting, I thought I loved him and the same for him but my personal belief and his is you can't really know for sure if you love someone until you spend time with each other in-person.

You're not the only one who has done this, many people in LDRs met on-line and there's nothing wrong with you for doing it. You just need to be be cautious and realize that on-line/phone/texting is a lot different than actually being together on a much more personal level in-person.

As for a lot of jealousy and misunderstanding to work through as Hopeless mentioned, that can happen with some people but it certainly doesn't happen with all people in LDRs. My partner and I never had any jealousy issues to work through, there's never been any misunderstandings between us. We trust each other 100% so we have no reason to be jealous.

There's nothing wrong with you at all! I met my SO at a gig and after only spending one night together we became a couple. We'll be getting married at the end of this year. Before our first proper visit, all we had was talking online and on the phone/texting so I feel like we've had an online relationship for a brief time too. I do believe you can establish very meaningful relationships this way (whether it be good friends or a romantic partnership) and I wish you both the very best in your first meeting!!!! This is the time when everything's so new and exciting...enjoy every moment of it! :)

You're definitely in the right place :)

My boyfriend and I didn't meet online, but that's where our relationship started. We spent 7 months emailing, IM'ing, texting and talking on the phone before we met in person and were LD for 4 years before he moved down here to live with me.

It's not easy and though it's really exciting now in the beginning of it all, it will get significantly harder after you meet and begin to develop deeper feelings.

I agree with hopeless, make sure you can really trust her before you get too involved. Make sure she is who she says she is (as in video chatting lol) and that you two have the same goals at all times. Communication is REALLY important, make sure you both talk about what kind of communication you expect, and what kind of communication will and will not be ok. Some people want to communicate throughout the day, others not so much, some want to know everything you're doing when you do it and others just want to hear about your day at the end of it. Voice your needs and wants so you don't give too much or too little.

As far as jealousy goes it will depend on you and your girlfriend. I never found myself jealous of girls my boyfriend hung out with but I was never happy when those girls were ones that he'd slept with, but those are my own insecurities and I did my best not to let it interfere. If you know your girlfriend turns out to be uncomfortable with certain situations involving other girls, make sure to keep the communication open and clear. Trust is key and though it's difficult so far away, she needs to trust that you are and will be faithful.

Enjoy this time of getting to know each other, it's the best!

You guys are the best thanks for the replies & to asdustdances congrats on you getting married :)

Thank you!!! :)

You're welcome. (: And I'd like to explain further on the jealousy thing, cause people are talking about how they are /not/ jealous with their partners. I trust my darlin with everything and I'm not worried about that. Its the people that I know he hangs out with alot that I'm jealous of. I so envy his friends that actually get to see and hug him everyday. I support his friendships and all, bust I just wish that /I/ could be there to hold him. /: And misunderstandin wise. I'm talking about when they say something in a tone of voice that you read completely differently. its really easy to mistake something serious as sarcasm when its just text you have to go off of. So its not that you guys actually have a disagreement, its just because of the technical disadvantage that things can get confusing/hurtful. Not sure if that made sense at all..... Just my experience.

Thank you it means a lot :)

I asked myself the same ? lol.. me and my boyfriend met a little over a month ago & a week after we met he asked me to make it official. Ive never done this b4 but i said yes bc everything just seemed so rt & felt so natural. (& this is coming from someone who was completely finished w/dating or anything of the sort) A couple of my friends were being discouraging & telling me it was just way too soon & how can i know him in a week. But whats funny is that same friend made a similar connection with a guy she recently met & made it official after a week too! lol...you just have to be ok with what you want. Be cautious of course but enjoy the journey :-) Also, why not try something different if jumping rt in is something you've never done.