Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Will it ever change?

Ashvi
Ashvi
Hi All,
I am married to this wonderful man and have two lovely children. I love my family and husband. I have a deep seated feeling of lonelyness. My husband and I do not share many things.
I am the kinda of person who likes to talk,laugh and socialize. He is completely opposite:happy to be in front of a computer. I tried talking to him about this and he tells me "there is no us, it is all about kids. Doing things for/with is what we should be thinking". But this sense of lonlyness is miserable.

Any suggestions or advice?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashvi, Welcome

So what does he mean by "there is no us"? I am in sort of the same situation with my wife but its never come down to just about the kids. Now I grew up in that environment and I will tell you from a child's point of view its not healthy for kids not to see a loving family. If it wasnt for my wife's family I would not be here today, they showed me what a loving family looked like..

Have you suggested counseling? Do you do anything together? Do you do anything together with the kids?

Feeling the loneliness is tough and can be so heartbreaking. You came to the right place. There are a lot of people on here that will help and offer their advice.
billwfriend
billwfriend
welcome....hugs and no idea here but to welcome you with open arms...
gustokitty
gustokitty
yikes. what a horrible thing to say to your wife.
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
It's great that he's so concerned about the kids, but he needs to be concerned about the marriage. Marriage counseling, even just a few sessions, might help

Sending you good thoughts.

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violetmist
violetmist
Welcome Ashvi, Geez, not too nice of your husband to say "there is no us". All I can suggest is counseling. Again welcome. We are here for you.
Ashvi
Ashvi
Hello there
Thanks all for your encouraging words and support, truly appreciate it.
We do lots of things with our kids. As i mentioned he is an amazing person, wonderful dad and good husband. I just don't have that connection it seems. Overall a very nice guy whom I don't want to hurt in any shape or form.

So I feel like I am trapped b/w a hard place and a rock....
annettearizona
annettearizona
Hello! I have heard many times over the years from people starting over after a divorce etc that theyjust stayed together because of the kids! Perhaps you need to ask your "husband" about a divorce since he acts like you two have nothing else keeping you together? Because your marriage should be more than just the kids-you deserve a life too.
gramybear
gramybear
He is wrong. Yes it is about "US", it is not just about the kids. Is he staying because of the kids or because he loves his wife and family? He needs to answer that question for you. Of course the children are important, but so are you and you deserve to be recognized. Hugs Gramybear
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