I use to be this way and learned over years of well being used and left that I needed to step back and calm down a little.


all yu can do is your best and real friends will stick with you. :)

Thank you lostsoul

yes. don't beat yourself up. i have similar to an extent. it's just for me, i can make aquaintances easily. as i get to know them, either i just don't like them or i do. and once i consider them my friend....then they ARE my friend. and i have certain expectations. It's hard to adjust to the worlds viewpoint on this. just know it is not you. most people are out for themselves. but not everybody. there are some cool people. so perhaps figure them out first, and decide if they are worthy of your good friendship, or just a friendly arms length aquataince. easier said than done, i realize. working on this myself. once i find out how ugly they are inside, i have a hard time even wanting to be around them. so people will tell you, don't get that personal. but u know what. they are wrong, we are right. we are just outnumbered.

Dream, I do the same thing. I find a friend and I want to be everything they need in a friend. I put myself out there and in the end I get hurt because I expect too much. As you I dont see a grey area...everything is in black and white. I am never content with who I am or what I do. Lately I have been seeing a therapist who is teaching me to just let it go and not to spend so much time trying to be that best person. If the other person chooses to be my friend then I will give 100% if they choose not to then I need to let it go. For me, I want a 2 way street...not me on the road and the other driving on the shoulder. Its a tough situation to be in but your not alone.

guess I am guilty as hell on this one..mostly because of jealousy..I mknow I shouldn't get that way, but I do, so thats when I push people away..and then get scared of being alone..thats when I beat up on myself.

Well i don't think it's that much of a big deal I mean in terms of what you may perceive as people running away. It wouldn't get on my nerves but I would tell you hey you know let's talk later or something like that and then as a friend you would have to respect that. People have to make boundaries for themselves, it's just a way of balancing your life. Just as they say its not healthy to eat a lot of vitamins, which are good for you, it's harmful. Too much of anything is harmful. And maybe if you flit around from one friend to another they won't notice. You sound like a really cool chic to hang out with, so don't worry so much about it, just try to keep your cool and everything will work itself out, I think. And as long as you continue seeing your therapist I'm sure they can help you come up with a strategy to get you where you need to be so you don't feel so put upon or vice versa.

I was like that in my younger years, I had one friend I latched on too because basically she was the only one at the time, that would put up with me. I stayed at her house night and day ate her food, it's a wonder they didn't kick me to the curb. lol.

I'm not a therapist but borderline personality springs to mind. See a therapist, there is a good treatment called dialectic behaviour therapy that could ease some of your problems. Good lucm

I'm not a therapist but borderline personality springs to mind. See a therapist, there is a good treatment called dialectic behaviour therapy that could ease some of your problems. Good luck