never been to nyc so i am no help there. but, i think it just as hard to make friends everywhere. i live in a suburb of washington dc, most people commute there to work (2 hours each way on i-95, no way, not for me) and come here to relax and sleep and spend their money. i have no idea how you come to make friends once you are a grown up...it's not like you can walk up to someone on the street and say "wanna be my friend?"
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I think Sf bay area was the easiest place to make friends. because so many people came from so many places and were starting new lives.

you post reminded me of "Crocodile Dundee" when he comments about so many people living so close together, must be the friendliest city in the world! lol noo, not quite, huh.

I guess pick something, some area...some regular spot or activity and stick with it, till you start recognizing the same faces and eventually make friends. It does take a lot of time.

I recently visited NY and it's full of people. I think no matter where we live some of us just have a harder time making friends and fitting in. It is funny though like you said that NY has SO many people but the traffic and getting around makes it hard. In Ca. it is not as crowded but I still have a hard time. I like what chilvr said....I don't know how to make friends as grownups and truthfully I've struggled my whole life. I will be your friend, all the way from the other side of the U.S.A.!

well NYC has meetup groups....I am 100% sure of that one...that is great way to meet new people with common interests...but I have never lived in that big a city before...but I did move to remote tropical island for five years....had great time...church was part of that and can be part of yours unless you have problems with that stuff which I am seeming to have now....

Hello, I have a friend who lives in NYC. I also had relatives who have lived there, most have passed on, so I am down to my cousin and my old family friend living there now. What they did was make friends with the people in their building and they'd go to the same restaurant and the same market all the time and made friends with the people who ran those places as well as some of the people who went there regularly too. Mostly what they'd do is start out with hello and how are you for a while and then graduate to showing a little more interest in the lives of these people and ask about their families as familiarity set in. That's how we do it here to in Hicktown too. Like gustokitty says it takes time though.

Look in the paper for any support groups that you might be interested in. Do you play cards? There are usually a lot of card groups that meet once a week and that is a good way to meet people. I don't know too much about N.Y except they don't have Wal Mart LOL.... but possibly volunteering? Do you have a dog? Meeting people at the dog parks is another way. Once you find the right places to meet people, you will do fine. Hugs

Great replies and suggestions. Right, as an adult it's a bit different making friends compared to when we were young. But it's not that different. It's the follow up that's critical. Getting contact information and actually making contact. It is different in that we adults have obligations and responsibilities, esp. those with spouse and children and work upon all that.

Right, no Walmarts here. Plenty of coffee shops though!