My English teacher in high school taught me to never begin writing with “I” and to use it as little as possible so every attempt will be made to do so.  After retiring, my son and daughter in law ask me to move in with them and infant daughter.  A lot of thought and consideration followed for about two years, but eventually it happened.  Things were new and we were all getting accustomed to the new home and living arrangement, everything went well for about 3 years.  Life with them has deteriorated to the point that I am constantly living in fear of being in their way, participating in daily activities around the home, or even attempting to talk to them.  Their body language, especially my sons, when I enter a room he”s in, is one of frustration, annoyance and makes me very uncomfortable.  Trying to have a spontaneous, back and forth, free from being judged, be yourself, conversation is impossible.  Instead, i am usually shutdown with comments like, “ I have to make a phone call, or I have to get this document prepared”, or “I have to get M____ ready for bed”, or “can it wait cuz I have to meet J___ and I’m running late.  These are just a few examples.  If a conversation does happen, but I soon find myself being misunderstood or judged or being giving unsolicited opinions or advice.   Isolating myself from them was the solution for awhile, but that has caused me to feel rejected and hurt so I have tried to tell them how my feelings are only to have them argue that my feelings are ridiculous.  This has been building for about two years now and it seems so hopeless.  Most of my household belongings were sold upon moving here so it would be a great expense for me to start over, and they keep saying they don’t want me to do that.  Don’t have anyone to talk to about it and emotions are really taking me over.  Feel so isolated and lonely.