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Very blah today with no one to talk too

distarr
distarr

I feel so isolated and alone, I’m am trying desperately to heal after a relationship with a psychopath I have basically lost all of my friends and almost lost my only family member left my brother who is really sick himself and I can’t even bring up that I’m depressed because he is dealing with Health issues and he gets really upset if I bring up my ex, he gets mad and says mean things and I relive trauma all over again


No one can understand what it’s like unless you have gone threw it but it makes me feel so isolated and lonely and depressed so bad that I cry daily today I was better in the beginning of the day but slowly slipped down, I do suffer from ptsd from that relationship, what really kills me is that I’m left here in this darkness that is so deep sometimes I feel as though I will never get out and he is just living his life being happy life is so unfair, what keeps me going is that psychopaths can not change do to their faulty wiring in their brain no conscience, no guilt, no empathy and so on...  I have a lot of shame and guilt it’s all do to the abuse he did to me mentally and physically.... I have to do anything it takes to stop being obsessed with him even though that’s exactly what he wants... 


everything I have read about these “people” is that it’s normal for me to have these feelings of repulsion to longing because of the trauma bond that they purposely set out to hook you into their sick web of illusion and betrayal and abuse


I do see a therapist every week... i have to find that inner strength that I know is in there it’s just buried so far down that at times I don’t know if I can ever reach it but then I say he has destroyed me in every way I have to save myself this time, I have no other choice if I want to live


Thank u for letting me vent, I just want everyone who feels alone you are not alone their are a lot of us here with you, I send my love to all of you and I hope you feel better soon...

JazzyLady
JazzyLady
distarr - continue to vent if that is what you need to cope with your situation. I am sure you are feeling isolated and alone. The lost of a relationship is hard, if it was a bad relationship it is twice as hard. You have taken a great step in seeing a therapist. You are on the right path, you can't see it right now because of the hurt you are feeling. We are here for you and with you. Sending you a friendly hug.
distarr
distarr
Thank you so much, you made me smile today
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
I’m sorry you are having to go through this. One of the hardest things a woman can go through. My husband is leaving me after 27 years saying he doesn’t want to have to “deal” with me anymore. And yet he can’t seem to understand why this has devastated me, and thinks we can be friends now.
Our relationship was on the rock for awhile. He hasn’t truly talked to me, in what I have come to learn, most of our marriage. His not talking to me and not being happy, in my mind, meant “I must be doing something wrong” I’m the one that misunderstood, I must have been mistaken. He always has a good Reasoning for what he does and I’m to sensitive and imagine things.
Therapist told me this is a form of gaslighting. ??
I got to that point also where I lost myself. No self anything left. It’s a horrible place to be, and not easy to climb out of. God and I talked. I said I know Suicide is off the table, so what’s the next best thing. I wanted to leave the planet. I never felt so lonely. I’ve been having health problems with no support from husband or family, cuz they didn’t believe me. “It’s just anxiety, get over it” ya, like that helps. Last year, I was at the point of crying everyday for months. Therapist helped a lot, positive quotes posted up all over the house, and bathroom mirror, positive affirmation song playlist on iPod. I can share if you want. “The climb” is good.
The other thing that helped me was the book, The Power Within You, by Louise Hay. And of course the shear will to want to find myself again. I no longer wanted to be the victim. I loved one of the quotes that said something about being the heroine of my life. So that became my mission. There were so many times I didn’t think I was going to make it. I pushed through. I’m still on the roller coaster, only I like myself and have gained strength and confidence in myself. You can do it too. You sound like a strong woman. And you’ve made that first step already. Celebrate that. You deserve it. Tell yourself that. You are a deserving, loving worthwhile person. I put that one on the bathroom mirror. Big hugs, message if you feel like it.
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