Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
This is my first time on this website.
I feel like leaving everything and walking away. But dont know where I would go or what i would do. Then I think about jumping off a bridge into the water. But the thought of my four girls crying for me is unbearable.
For the past few weeks - I have been feeling very lonely and sad. My husband's job is demanding and he is away at least 12 hours each day. When he is home, I feel he is not giving me the attention I want. Even when we are having a conversation he keep looking at his cellphone/checking updates/messages.
Before bedtime he will again be checking the stock market, etc. Other times, he likes to watch a movie on the laptop in bed.
I have asked him to look for a different position which would be less demanding, but he enjoys his current company.
I feel so stuck - neglected. Is this what there is to life. Just take care of the family in circles day after day. Whats in it for me? I cant even go get a haircut if I wanted to.
Dunno what to do, is this what is called the bored wife syndrome? I have a seventeen month baby that makes me smile - other than that, I am just lost. Thinking of a divorce. Thinking of running away. Thinking of suicide. Thinking of counselling - but then again, I will be the only one going for the sessions. Hes just too busy.
I feel like leaving everything and walking away. But dont know where I would go or what i would do. Then I think about jumping off a bridge into the water. But the thought of my four girls crying for me is unbearable.
For the past few weeks - I have been feeling very lonely and sad. My husband's job is demanding and he is away at least 12 hours each day. When he is home, I feel he is not giving me the attention I want. Even when we are having a conversation he keep looking at his cellphone/checking updates/messages.
Before bedtime he will again be checking the stock market, etc. Other times, he likes to watch a movie on the laptop in bed.
I have asked him to look for a different position which would be less demanding, but he enjoys his current company.
I feel so stuck - neglected. Is this what there is to life. Just take care of the family in circles day after day. Whats in it for me? I cant even go get a haircut if I wanted to.
Dunno what to do, is this what is called the bored wife syndrome? I have a seventeen month baby that makes me smile - other than that, I am just lost. Thinking of a divorce. Thinking of running away. Thinking of suicide. Thinking of counselling - but then again, I will be the only one going for the sessions. Hes just too busy.
Peace and Love you you now and always!
You got to hang in there. I know how hard that is. I have been where you are. I Still am in a way.
My Ex just threw me away. I dont know what I did wrong, I dont know if it was my fault. I do know it felt awful. The frustration and loneliness
Would make me have furious outbursts. Then plunge to depths that only people like us know.
Ive stared at the dark hole. I still am not sure its not better then this pain. But I keep at it. I keep trying. You have got to keep at it.
Ketch
It isn't just about his job. He isn't there when he is there. Have a serious talk with him. Tell him exactly how depressed you are, that
you need him to be involved when he is there.
You said the baby makes you smile, and otherwise you're lost. What about your other three daughters?
You don't just need marriage counseling. You should see a therapist, be as honest with him/her as you've been here, so
that you can get the help you need.
Please take care of yourself by seeking help. With proper treatment, you could soon be enjoying your life and your family.
I have several reactions to your post. First, you describe your life as taking care of your kids, unable to go out for a haircut - I really hope you can find an outlet for some human interaction - church, mom's group, something. I think that might help you feel more like you and less like you're just stuck. I don't know what's available where you are but you might see what you can find.
My other reaction is one from my own past so I may be way off base here. If I am, please forgive me. I had a fiancee who was always checking her phone for work messages, who was gone all the time for her job, who had a friend who was having so many problems that she just had to go see her a lot. Turned out that she was fooling around on me a ton and that all the work messages were her latest guy or her girlfriend talking about their night they were planning. Her work was bar hopping to pick up guys and her poor friend needed her help to hook up. Sorry, didn't mean to make this about me. I just have a red flag going up, but admittedly, I have a filter. I hope that in your case my red flag is way off base.
Thanks for sharing with us. Thanks for reaching out. That's a good step.
I'm glad you're here. I'm Sam