Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
so i went out tonight..with real live people and you know what? it really sucked. the occasion was to celebrate a departing family friend, he's going to the marines. well, he's actually really my aunts friedn he's just always around the family and he's really wanted me to go. so iwent! only thing was, the people invited to that occassion were his friends, people i don't know, i spent the night alternating between having my head down playing with my phone and occassionally looking up to see if the food was coming. nobody talked to me and i didn't talk to anybody, i blame my aunt and family friend for being such a$$holes and not even trying to introduce me to the people or in any of the conversations, i felt like a freaking outsider sitting at the table while everybody laughed and talked. i blame them, but is it really their fault? i mean i have a mouth i could have initiated something right? idk...it has to be my fault like always. you know, i don't like being in large groups i'd rather the intimate. but you know what, i hate myself for that. i can't connect with people :'( i really can't, i think i missed that period in my childhood were social activity flourished...cause im just a freaking idiot around people, i want them to want to talk to me. but they don't nobody does, it doesn't help that i alk really low..ahhhhhhhhhhhhh oh my god i just want to scream. i'm really sad that i'm alone but it's the only state i know, am i wrong for being alone?
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I promise you, almost everyone feels the same way you did in that situation, at least once. It isn't a big deal at all.
It is very difficult to strike up conversations, and then keep them going. Similar to speaking in front of a group - which you probably have to do sometime at school. People hate that worse than anything. There's a group called Toastmasters - they teach you
public speaking - which builds confidence. It would probably be
a bunch of older people, but it is a solution, and anything that gives you confidence, and is free (I think) is worth considering.
Not being able to jump in and start chatting with people you've never met isn't anything to feel bad about. I'm pretty sure it's totally normal.
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"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact surrounded by
(morons)." (a less offensive word)
I have felt lonely around people since childhood too. I was always viewed as being shy, when in fact, I was withdrawn.
I encourage you to just be yourself around people. Some are going to like you and some not, though the ones who like you , like you for who you are, not for who they want you to be.
Smiling always get people thinking you feel good about yourself, and/or wondering what you've been up to .... LOL
hope you can get over it and let it go...hope you ate a nice meal and at least know you had a chance and learn from that chance for what to do next time....
hugs bill
Remember, this soon to be Marine, "The man of the hour", personally invited you because he wanted you to be there.
While it makes meeting people a whole lot easier when a mutual party makes introductions, and exceptional hosts will do their best to make sure everyone is having a good time and actively participating, or at least check on you to make sure you are OK just playing on your phone, we cannot always rely on that. She may have thought you preferred not to be apart the conversation. It's very possible that his friends and family were curious as to why you weren't talking to them? They may have felt you didn't like them. Who knows. Our perception of things is often much different than reality.
Practice being outgoing. Start with people you see on a daily basis. Spark up some small talk about anything, even better when you know it'll be a topic of interest to them.
It is common to let our insecurities dictate who we think we are. Focus on strengthening your social skills and maybe you'll be right in the middle next time, telling jokes at his welcome home party!
If you can't think of anything to say, or don't feel like talking, that's OK. Then LISTEN. It's what I do.
Maybe laugh if you find something they say funny. That's it! Then go back to being alone. That's OK too.
I was in the same situation about a month ago: My brother-in-law was promoted and he invited me to his promotion ceremony. I didn't know any of the people there, so, after futilely attempting conversation, which he prodded me to do, I kinda hovered around my parents and the ors de oveurs table, but my very presence made him feel supported!
It's ok to say no! :)
It isn't easy to talk to people in crowds for this introvert either, especially when I don't know anyone. I have even left funerals for departed business associates because I didn't know anyone! The most important thing is that you were there.
Fortunately, as PinterestFan pointed out, there are free groups to help people like us to gain confidence. And the older people are very understanding.
However, since I enjoy taking photos, I sometimes bring my camera to help break the ice. I find that people love getting their pics taken, and it takes the edge off my nervousness.
I say "bravo" to you for supporting your friend, despite how you felt.