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Stoicism
Stoicism
Do you ever feel like you could be in a room of hundreds of people and not be noticed? Or worse feel like you could be in a room with one other person and not be noticed? That's pretty much me, every day, every hour every minute. I feel sometimes I am remarkably unremarkable. Which I know is not true, but unfortunately nobody else knows, with the exception of my handful of close friends. I guess I'm just not really that good at advertising myself, probably because I'm not a braggart and a blowhard... and I have an intense loathing for people of the sort. The biggest talkers are always the first to turn tail and run, its true in war and true in life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I quite prefer not to be noticed, being extremely shy, it is a nightmare really. I feel the way you do about people who are the big talkers and advertise themselves, bragging, etc.. It seems, in the U.S. anyway, that you're no one if you're not that way. Here's a poem by Emily Dickinson where she addresses that sort of thing:

I'm Nobody! Who are you?
Are you-- Nobody--Too?
Then there's a pair of us!
Don't tell! they'd advertise-- you know!
How dreary -- to be-- Somebody!
How public -- like a Frog--
To tell one's name -- the livelong June--
To an admiring Bog!
Stoicism
Stoicism
Pretty much, everyone nowadays has a webpage displaying every detail of their lives because they're so great the world is waiting with bated breath for the next update. By the way I admire the fact you know how to spell "quite", nine times out of ten people type "quiet".
Stoicism
Stoicism
Pretty much, everyone nowadays has a webpage displaying every detail of their lives because they're so great the world is waiting with bated breath for the next update. By the way I admire the fact you know how to spell "quite", nine times out of ten people type "quiet".
Stoicism
Stoicism
Pretty much, everyone nowadays has a webpage displaying every detail of their lives because they're so great the world is waiting with bated breath for the next update. By the way I admire the fact you know how to spell "quite", nine times out of ten people type "quiet".
P00hbear
P00hbear
If you know you are not unremarkable, then I think that's all that matters. If you have a handful of close friends, even better...many do not have even that. It's certainly possible to be in a room of hundreds and not be noticed, but it is also possible there is a personality in between the quiet types and the braggadocios..that's what I feel I am, certainly not shy or quiet, but absolutely not the best at advertising myself - the beauty is, there's truly no need for that - the right people will respect and appreciate you for being yourself, so hang in there and don't worry about what others think...
deleted_user
deleted_user
If u notice yourself, then other people will notice u.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, I guess it takes that far-away thing called self-confidence or something like that to make people notice you. I never had myself any of that, so I too am ignored when I enter a room, because I want to be ignored, and yet I'm frustrated with myself for not getting attention.

I love that Emily Dickinson poem!

I secretly am jealous of those braggarts even though I think little of them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
the worst is when you advertise yourself without even meaning to, and you genuinely would prefer not to be seen.
deleted_user
deleted_user
nala123, that made me laugh :D
deleted_user
deleted_user
:) hehe i've always liked that poem you shared.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The title and subject matter of your thread reminds me of that song "Mr. Cellophane" from "Chicago".

And yes, I often feel that way, too. In my head, I know the problem is in me and I have to ACT like I matter just as much as everybody else, and then people will stop overlooking me like I'm nothing. But it's not so easy to get that first spark of confidence.