Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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karanhere 05/14/2016

Hello Everyone.

I wanted to ask you all that have you ever felt getting tangled in your own negative thoughts and then you don't realize what is wrong and right.

I have been lonely for majority part of my life as I am not able to make genuine friends,have been hurt so many times in the past that its really difficult for me to trust anyone now.Because of all the hurt and rejection I have a tendency to isolate myself and it makes things worse.

It has also made me short tempered and bitter about life.I get irritated very easily now and just lash out.I regret that a few moments later and then it makes me to isolate myself even more so that I don't do that again.

I want to lead a normal life but this depression is just sucking the life out of me.I don't have motivation for anything in life.There are days when I decide that I am going to change my life around but then that feeling withers away and again I am in the same situation.

I have a girl friend who is really nice but she is not able to support me even if she tries as I feel that what she does or say is not coming from her heart but is more superficial.

I just want to be a normal human being with a normal life.Is that too much to ask.

Please let me know if you have any suggestion or advice.It would really mean a lot...Thank you guys....God Bless You all.

nifer57 05/14/2016

Oh, I just want to give you a big hug...I go through the same kinds of things, thoughts and feelings. I am very bitter about life, and my depression is relentless.

My medications don't seem to work, which makes me frustrated, and just Thursday I told my therapist that I am so tired...I don't want to work on trying to be normal anymore, whatever "normal" is.

Dear Lord, I am lonely even among my own family (we are a big one) and am terrified of the family reunion that is coming up in two weeks. I also have a friend who tries to support me, but she moved to Maine and I hear from her less and less.

My advice is sort of moot, because I'm in the same boat as you, but when I think about how lonely and depressed I am I try and do something nice for myself, like taking time to just sit and be with my cats (who love me unconditionally) or journal ( I scrapbook journal....it's fun.)

Good Luck, and you can vent to me ANYTIME.

love and hugs,
jennifer

karanhere 05/14/2016

Hi Jenni(I hope you don't me calling you that :) )

Thanks for you reply and advice.

Sometimes when I am dead down I just say to myself that this shall too pass as all human condition is anyhow temporary.And it does help even if a little bit.

All I can say go on and never give up coz positive people like you gives me hope that there is still goodness left in this world.

Things will change for good hopefully.

God Bless you and I am here if ever you need a friend or an ear.

Hugs :))

nifer57 05/14/2016

I don't mind if you call me jenni. I go by a lot of names...including jennifer, jen, nifer, jennae, and pennifer :) Thank you and thanks for adding me to your friends! God Bless.

jenni :)

angeleyes92 05/14/2016

do you have a therapist that you can talk to about these issues? we can support you here but it sounds like there is deeper issues that need resolved.

karanhere 05/14/2016

@angeleyes92 I don't have a therapist at the moment but I want to see one but I just procrastinate.But I will see one soon.

I know I suffer from depression but yes there are few issues that are rooted deep inside me coz of past experiences etc.

nifer57 05/16/2016

Try not to procrastinate too long about getting a therapist. Those deep rooted things can start causing havoc and heighten any anxieties you might have. I was in therapy for a fairly long time. I stopped going, and it wasn't long before I was a mess. Hopefully you can find someone soon. Good luck with it my friend!!

((((HUGS))))
jenni

karanhere 05/17/2016

Thanks Jenni.

Yes I have made an appointment this week.Hope it helps.

Thanks for your care...hugs :):)L)

veryintroverted 05/19/2016

I hope by finding people with similar issues here can make you feel better to know that you are not alone.

Best wishes.

adriennetellsittruei 05/29/2016

Im completely the same way. I tend to guard myself from everyone and now that my son has recently decided to leave me and live with his father, i feel betrayed by the one i let in the most and now i feel like i have to isolate myself from him as well. I feel like no matter what happens nothing is going to change and i'm at the point where im tired of hurting everyday and trying anything when i'm the only one who ends up being left behind and alone. I hope ur gf learns how you really feel and helps you in every way possible.

Magical41 05/29/2016

Hi. Reading what you wrote sounds exactly like I myself could have written it. Sometimes we can get into these cycles that we can't get out of... i understand completely.

I, myself, keep hoping something will change and get me out of this "funk." but the only thing I can do is make changes on my own...

I think maybe you should talk to someone... a therapist, counselor, or trust family/friend.

I wish you all the best. Just know you are NOT the only one who feels this way.

Michele

wheretheredwoodsgrow 05/29/2016

Im sorry for all you are feeling. I think we all get bitter especially when life has kicked you around some. I know I do. Some are better at hiding it than others. I have troubles with trust as well, when you have been hurt so much. I try to stick to people who understand or at least try to understand if they cant. and keep myself busy..less thinking more doing kind of stuff so Im not in my head all the time...yikes lol. Try not to be hard on yourself . I hope you feel better and find comfort.

akacountrygirl 06/03/2016

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dc87110 06/10/2016

I Know this feeling well. It was suggested that I get professional advice. And I am in the process of doing that. One obstacle is that when I overcome what I think is making be sad and all is well I tend to think I'm ok. So I procrastinate. I have good days and bad days. But I know the funk well and lately due to a career change that produced even more lonliness (Truck Driving) And then the fear of what if this happens... The feelings get harder and harder to deal with. It has come to my conclusion that The Beatles were right when They wrote the song eight days a Week. And the eight day Is Murphy Day... I think god has a sense of humor because on the 7th day he rested... And then there is always tomorrow. Murphy day.

I will include you in my prayers... And remember you are not alone in this...

Respectfully
DC

karanhere 06/12/2016

I feels good to know that there are other people who can relate to what I feel and I don't feel the odd one out for a change lol .I pray for all of you guys and I believe one day we shall win.

I am thankful to all of you for taking time out of your lives and give me a much needed support and I would love to do that in any which ways I can.

Stay Blessed guys and if you want to talk,vent or just need an ear I am here for you.

Hugs:)

mgsts213 06/13/2016

Hi karanhere,

The feeling of loneliness sucks. But there is hope. Don't give up.

I've been a loner for most of my life too and making friends was hard at first. I thought there was always something wrong with me, but the problem was that I was making the wrong type of friends. I decided that I needed friends who were going to want me for me. I eventually was able to make friends out of the blue, but because most of the time I went out of my comfort zone. I had to let go of that fear that would keep me from making friends.

It's sounds easy, but it's not. It takes courage and wits to get out of your comfort zone. Like all other things, everything is possible. It just takes the extra push and courage.

I believe you can beat this loneliness and depression.
God doesn't make you go through anything you can't handle.
Just don't give up! We can beat it together.

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