Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
I feel really alone when I'm not with my boyfriend only because I feel like he doesn't really want to talk to me when he's away because he's with his friends and he doesn't feel a need to text all the time but we go to different schools so texting, talking on the phone, and facetime is all we have until we can see each other. I just feel like he doesn't see that it hurts me and makes me feel unimportant because to him he's not doing anything wrong.
Text anytime you need a real girlfriend or strength sister lol
Anxiety and anxious feelings all the time when they leave and even when they are with you
Suggest strongly learning detachment and using dbt coping skills to learn how to cope with your unmet attachment needs
And start looking for Mr available in your school???
It's a scientific fact that we will feel bad separated from our loved ones... Unless those needs are securely met and we have other stuff to do
Don't let him mess your heart about being unpredictable is not nice
Cancelling
Not knowing when you'll see him again
All bad
Maybe he doesn't know what he's doing to you
Men seem a bit more considerate in their forties ... Some of them
It's not really a relationship if your not meeting up all the time
Spend your time trying to get someone who will meet up often
Screw him and him getting on with his life without you
Don't let him leave you hanging for a reply for hours on end. This is a power trip move by arseholes and an action of the inconsiderate
Now you have your response dont set yourself up for wanting him to engage again
Be happy you had your reply, don't text then trigger off that obsession to hear from him asap and wondering why not.
Who cares why he's not replying yeah! Your not expecting any more contact because it's your turn to contact him yes
detachment can come by learning what you have power over and what you don't. You don't have power over him to control him, every time you believe you can control him to treat you the way you want to be treated you give up your power to him.
You give him power to push your buttons
Accept you can't make him do x t z and even if you could you don't want to because then he'd call you a control freak and make you feel like an abuser
Take back your power, by reclaiming your power over your innards.
Acceptance, men especially arseholes have there most stunning ability to go forever without you
You will be overwhelmed with the urge to contact them first
This is how you know your in an insecure attachment pattern
A secure attachment your bf would be responsive to you
Mine is there for me and I do my best not to spam him all the time while he's in work or doing hobbies with friends.
The best advice is to find a new more available bf who you can totally obsess over and be all over most of the time,
That will end this upsetting pattern with this guy
If you want to keep this guy... Then gosh, you got your work cut out for you.
D dialectical behaviour therapy skills workbook is available on amazon, it teaches you to regulate your feelings and cope better and get happier. If you were to receive this professionally it would just be educational and prompts to do the exercises so your not missing out on much
on the plus side, Might be a good skill to learn to cope with separation from a loved one. More mature...
Get yourself an alpha male when your grown because they go for high quality girls who know how to cope!!
Keep your eye on that marriage proposal, he's gonna be a good un!!!