Want have learned with my social anxiety don't be afraid to put yourself out there. I kept putting myself out there and I finally found a friend who deals with the same and know we are best friends. I got rejected alot but I didn't give up. trust your and also stay positive.

You need to talk to your parents and see what they can to do maybe get some help. I have a daughter your age and she too has social anxiety and few friends. We've been working on it together, but I think have an unbiased opinion might also help. I realize its not enough to say " just get out there". The anxiety is overwhelming and I'm sure you don't know how to turn off your feelings.

I am the same, it takes time, I try to put myself out there but it IS hard. Making memories is good but don't just do it cause u think you should do it, find someone who really understands you.. high school is high school ( cant wait to escape) and it wont matter anymore, but if you don't learn how to deal with it now life will be even harder. HUGS .

I was the same way in high school. I'm 21 and in college now and still the same way. I say get help now because if you don't you'll really regret it as you get older. These are the best years of your life. People are saying to put yourself out there and yes that's the best option but it's hard. It's like why? Why can't people just come to me? We'll believe me they want. Be adventurous and put yourself out there. You may get some good out of it.

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. I experienced somewhat similar teenage years. I recommend finding a positive adult to help you with positive talk towards yourself. This has helped me immensely. Please take care and keep your chin up.

I experience similar things and I understand how difficult it is. I find that I tend to isolate myself even in large groups of people and the isolation (though more in my comfort zone) isn't helping me. I've been making small changes to the way I interact with others-waving at people before they wave at me, asking them questions pertaining to the conversation topic; etc. This is becoming easier the more I reach out to others and though they are small changes, they are changes nevertheless.

sounds exactly like my junior & senior year of high school, barely having enough friends to invite to my graduation party! Your life is just starting, and after high school its going to shift, but dont let the shift move you! Simply find balance in it. You not having many friends is not because of something you lack, but rather who you attract that sees you just as you are, but within themselves as well. Teen years esp in high school is guaranteed that the people you started out with will not be there after its over. You stay inside alot? so what? (that is not good if you become depressed)...but thats fine if the reason is you dont have friends to do anything with. Do you notice the popular people in your school and how almost everyone likes them? I mean do you truly think that they have a sincere bond with everyone in the school? No way..if you were to ask a few people why they like the "popular kid" some of them would say "idk shes hot/hes hot", or "cool", or "funny". All of those things have nothing to do with the person on the inside. Their outside character attracts people who idolize them and envy their independence & courage. But...if you ask some of their closest friends why they like them, it can simply be because "ive seen her face fears, cry over assholes, fail first semester and bounce right back" everything that has value on the inside will not always shine on the outside. You dont want to be friends with people just to have them around, you want to make friends with people who care about you, tell you the truth, fight with you because you lied about getting back together with your cheating ex for the 6th time. those are the people you want, those are the ones who stick around. If you have social anxiety dont force yourself into wild parties. If it is not for you, then its just not for you. find out what you love doing, where you are comfortable going regardless of the fear. When you find that invest in it, embrace it. And in that place you will find people just like you. its okay to hold onto fear, but you must let it go when you desire any change.

Don't stress it. Do your best to make friends but don't let the fact that you have a different high school experience get to you. Who's to say which is better. If you can find one really good friend who will always be there for you you'll be doing very well.

When I was in high school almost 20 years ago (damn that long ago lol) I was always the one who was teased, tortured, harassed, and humiliated...mostly for no reason. I had no real close friends. Never had a girlfriend, never went on a date, never got to go to homecoming or prom. It was truly horribke fir me (at that time). I would sit at home and watch tv or whatever because I was too lame fir anyone.

Fast forward to 2017 - I have accomolished a great deal in my life, countless things in fact. Dont let 4 years of your life define who you are. When you look back you will see high school was a waste of time. Its plastered with awkwardness and schools do not prepare you for the world outside. Take it from us adults, you are doing just fine.

I like bridgies reply in that your life may just be in a different order...My own went like this: I seemed to attract friends like bees to honey through junior high. In high school a whole other story. I felt exactly like you. I think I became very nervous and self-conscious. Those things just don't exist when you're little, so eveything flows naturally. I went to 3 different high schools, one across country which was actually the happiest one. You may not break out of your own shell until you hit yourself with your own hammer after h.s. I accomplished that and turned a page when I got a job working with the public. More than one actually. Accept yourself and love yourself first. You have to do that before you can "love your neighbor as yourself" (in other words, you can only love others as much as you love yourself). People, especially some people are like thermometers or something and can sense how much self esteem or lack of it thay you have. They will test you mercilessly and that.can be tortuous. Approval-seeking people are the worst victims.
So my best advice for confidance building is "fake it til you make it" or rather BECOME it, as I heard recently.

I.e. "fake it til you become it."