Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
I know that my little situation will not apply to a lot of people possibly reading this so I don't know how much anyone can help, but really just a listening ear and a cyber hug would be nice right now if nothing else. But here it goes.
I met the man of my dreams last year. After many breakups, anxiety attacks, and hardships these past few years I finally finished college, got engaged, and turned 20 this year. My life has straightened out considerably. I could not be any more blessed with a supportive, loving man. But now we are down to business with planning a wedding in August. My little phase of happiness has quickly vanished with the intense stress of being trapped in an awful job and unable to find a new one in my field of study. My second area of stress is the idea of my perfect little wedding that I have always had in my head, that is now falling apart. I have an extremely unwilling bridal party that I am praying even shows up and does their part. No true girlfriends to be happy for me in this chapter of my life and help with the wedding. And now my fiancs job is possibly changing in the next few months where he might have to work on our wedding night, cutting our wedding short and ruining any plans of a honeymoon. That last part has me in pieces.
I know there are people on this site with much worse problems than me, and I am grateful that my problems now seem small in comparison to how bad my life used to be. But I am going on day 4 of crying my eyes out from all of the stress that I feel. I just feel like a failure because I can't control my job or wedding situation. With no friends to share things with and my fianc working 10 hours every day on 3rd shift, I just feel stressed out to the max and isolated. If anyone has read this far then thank you wether or not I get any replies. I'm clinging to hope that some things will just work themselves out.
I met the man of my dreams last year. After many breakups, anxiety attacks, and hardships these past few years I finally finished college, got engaged, and turned 20 this year. My life has straightened out considerably. I could not be any more blessed with a supportive, loving man. But now we are down to business with planning a wedding in August. My little phase of happiness has quickly vanished with the intense stress of being trapped in an awful job and unable to find a new one in my field of study. My second area of stress is the idea of my perfect little wedding that I have always had in my head, that is now falling apart. I have an extremely unwilling bridal party that I am praying even shows up and does their part. No true girlfriends to be happy for me in this chapter of my life and help with the wedding. And now my fiancs job is possibly changing in the next few months where he might have to work on our wedding night, cutting our wedding short and ruining any plans of a honeymoon. That last part has me in pieces.
I know there are people on this site with much worse problems than me, and I am grateful that my problems now seem small in comparison to how bad my life used to be. But I am going on day 4 of crying my eyes out from all of the stress that I feel. I just feel like a failure because I can't control my job or wedding situation. With no friends to share things with and my fianc working 10 hours every day on 3rd shift, I just feel stressed out to the max and isolated. If anyone has read this far then thank you wether or not I get any replies. I'm clinging to hope that some things will just work themselves out.
When I married my first husband, he was home on leave from the military, proposed and he wanted to get married then and return from his leave and then have me follow when he got a place for us to live. We did our talking about all the stuff, money, kids, all that and I finally agreed, then he called his C.O. and got permission (back then they needed permission to marry--I don't know if they still need it) and a bit of extended time.
We put together a quick wedding and I even had a professional wedding dress maker make a beautiful wedding dress for me. I had a nice wedding in a pretty church, a small reception and a short honeymoon right in that same state. It is amazing what you can do when you have to.
Under the circumstances, you could have the wedding at an earlier date than you planned (before his job changes), cut the wedding party to one person each, and focus on the wedding being about you two as the couple because that's what it really is all about. Why have bridesmaids that you really don't want and that are unwilling--I would chuck that idea and either have one person or no people.
To get this stressed, figure out what is stressing you and ways to eliminate those areas of stress or to change those areas of stress.
Congratulations on meeting the man of your dreams and your upcoming marriage.
I have been married twice. One a small intimate wedding and the other a typical wedding. I remember both equally. The most memorable part was looking into his eyes and saying my vows and being told we are man and wife. Those are the moments that your heart soars.
Look at the meaning of marriage, the love, joy and commitment. not all the fluff. You will be a much happier bride.