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Strange place in life - 40s no kids or spouse

regularguy53339
regularguy53339

Generally upbeat and optimistic. However, I'm now in my 40s and find I'm in a strange situation. Pretty much all of my friends have "disappeared" due to (a) spouse, (b) kids and (c) busy job/life.  I don't have kids.  Even though I’ve certainly tried, I also have no spouse/relationship.  I’m looking for a guy, but to be honest I don’t think guys treat each other very well.  Guys do not communicate well at all, and for some odd reason guys don’t want to be the first to express any sort of interest, and they seem to cringe whenever the concept of commitment comes up LOL.  I guess it’s genetic.  I don’t know…I have no problem with it and I’m definitely a male.  At this point all I really want to find is one or a few good male friends who might understand what the heck I’m talking about.  Friends/brother type relationship at this point is way more important than getting into a relationship. If that happens, fine, but at this point I don’t expect it. 


Happy to talk to anyone feeling good bad or lonely on this site, but mostly looking for dudes in a similar situation or any guy wanting friends.  It’s extremely hard to make good male friends and I don’t know why.



Statswise (if that matters) I’m male in mid 40s, very “normal” whatever that means, workout and do some sport almost every day, pretty much perfect nutrition and in great health, very personable and social.  But my personal life pretty much sucks ha ha.  Hope to meet some good people out there.  Thanks.

rob1950
rob1950
know somewhat how u never had male friends much. i am not the macho type.not into sports.guy friends would be great if they knew how to tlk normal. live with gf but its not the same. belong to a ping pong club where i have some contact with the male species. here if u want to tlk more. keep ur chin up.
koolman
koolman
Hi there, brother. I'll be your friend.
koolman
koolman
And I'm in my 50s, no spouse, no kids. I'm starting to feel the emptiness and my eventual demise, passing from this Earth, without leaving a legacy of love behind.

Romantic love has been tough for me too. All the women that I've liked have either not liked me, are already involved with someone else or have been married to their careers and money.

I see my sister's kids once a year. They were "challenging" from 1-3 years old, but now 4 and 6, they're starting to become really cool, independent.

Like you, I'm physically in good shape, like to exercise. I'm also a bit of a nerd. I like sci-fi and technology.
koolman
koolman
I guess you could say I've reached a point in life where I want to exercise my intellect as well as my loins. This is why friends are just as important as sex and romance with a lady. If a woman can serve all those functions, great, but I too am finding more often than not that FRIENDS are needed to fulfill the intellect. It'd be great to have a very special female friend too, to satisfy the intellect as well as the heart and loins, but I'm focused on having fun, and if a woman fits into that fun, great.
Stormee
Stormee
Hi koolman, I agree that friends are important for the intellect. My husband recently passed away but he was my best friend and we would have deep conversations about philosophy and our Christian faith. A lot of times he was over my head especially at first but he was also extremely patient. I learned so much from him and I miss him terribly. I do appreciate though, the growth I gained from getting to know him. BTW, I'm not a guy but if you want someone to talk to, I'm a good listener (umm guess that would be good reader in this case).