Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Mishee 12/12/2016

Hi everyone. I joined today because I feel lonely most of the time in life. I live alone with my cat and who is the apple of my eye. My biggest fear is the inevitible, growing old solo and sick getting sick and suffering. My mother was my rock, friend....my biggest fan in life and she died unexpectedly at age 57 in 2000. I am somebody else now, life is so sad and miserable now. Oh well. I function ok and i have friends but i feel i serve no purpose...i really question my existence. I never wanted children because that instinct never came to me. My mother and father divorced when i was a baby. My mom hated being a single mom and it rubbed off on me. Kids were never something i wanted. I dont fit in with society. The pressure to be a family is tremendous. I know people wonder wtf is wrong with me and look at me as a dreaded "old maid".

Thanks for reading this.

Debbalina 12/12/2016

You're not alone. I am 50, never married, no kids. I feel like I live on the fringe of society. I had a dog and a cat and lost both of them within a month of each other earlier this year. They were my team. I live with my mom, who is healthy at 80 but I know once she passes (whenever that is) I will have no real reason to live. I truly question my ability to stay alive then. I already struggle with depression and loneliness, too. I never expected to be in my circumstances at this stage in life. Like you, kids were never something I wanted and I feel I don't fit in with society as well. Welcome to DS. You came to a place of empathy and understanding. I wish I had more positive words of wisdom but all I can say is there are more of us out there than we think. Grass always looks greener on the other side. You're lucky to have your cat and your health. I look for things everyday to be grateful for. Sometimes I find them, sometimes not. But I keep looking.....hugs.

Amaranthine 12/12/2016

Hello Mishee. Welcome :) I'm fairly new too. I hope your loneliness will be somewhat relieved by this support group. Your post really resonates with me. Single..yes in 40's yes. Old maid?? NO and I'm sure neither are you. My situation is different - I am a single mother to one child - but I too really feel that pressure to be a family (as in a traditional family). I know that feeling of not quite fitting in. I haven't quite yet learnt how to not care what others think, but I think we'd feel a lot happier if we didn't give a ****! what other people think about us or our choices.
Of course you serve purpose. You have friends, your cat who relies on you, and you were a daughter. Sounds like you had a good mother/daughter relationship. I'm sorry you lost your Mum so young.
You will fit in here on the support groups. I hope you make some good connections here.

Mishee 12/12/2016

Yes Amaranthine you got it right...we would feel happier if we didnt give a EFF about what other people think! Easier said than done though. It was nice coming accross this group to see i am not really alone. Your message made me feel so much better. I hope to be of help to others as you have helped me. Cheers.

Almostdeadinside 12/12/2016

First off welcome and sorry to hear about your mom, It seems like this is the right place for you, I too am 40 and in the exact same situation. Although I know it's tough to do when we feel so isolated, we have to remember that perception is reality and need to focus on a positive outlook and be aware of our own mental toughness. I hope you can remind yourself that you are valuable, have a lot to contribute and do make a difference in this world and have the drive to do whatever it takes to break the chains holding you back because 40 is way too young to feel old ! I guess I'v rambled on enough but just want to say there is good support on here and all the best, let me know if you ever want chat, Smiles

Mishee 12/12/2016

Debbalina im so, so sorry you lost both your babies within a month...thats the worst pain, to me losing a pet is more painful than losing a person. (Sorry folks if i offended but its my truth). Thank you for sharing your story. Sometimes i think about just not existing anymore because i do nothing to improve society. The lack of support from real life people is the saddest part.
I am nobody's somebody. For now anyway. Maybe things will change in 2017. For all of us. I will keep looking for things to be grateful for too...

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