We must be twins..LOL. I can relate what you posted because this is me..except the parents divorcing. I feel very invisble when I am in a group of friends...people strike up conversation and within a few minutes have turned their attention to someone else. And I feel like an idiot because I am out there alone while everyone else is carrying a conversation. If there is a group of people talking..I will join their circle to make it look like I am participating..only because for me it is too awkward to stand alone.

I hear you with the not putting yourself out there anymore..and I go through days where I think what is the use? But...there is something deep inside me that says there is hope. If we don't put ourselves out there...our future will stay the same. And I don't think any of us want that. God didn't create us to be our own island...although maybe that is how some of us feel.

Hugs...
Doreen

This happens to me all the time. I'll join a conversation only to notice that not only has no one heard me, no one even noticed I was there!
It happens at work, at home, at events I go to, everywhere. Just last night I had to remind a friend that I was at an event she went to- she should remember me being there because I helped her sell CDs there! I get sick of being invisible, but I keep putting myself out there because I feel that maybe someone will see me one day!

Hope you start feeling better! HUGS!

I wish it would get better, I've been fighting this most of my life. My family ignores me- still to this day. I don't get calls from them, or invited to holiday events In fact I haven't seen my sisters child at all. I truly wonder what I lack as a person that make people run in the other direction. I wish I was a different person then who I am so I would have a loving family and some good friends.

You don't need to be a different person! You're just fine the way you are!

I have the same problem with my family. I'm rarely invited to any events- when I do show up, it's awkward and I end up leaving early. I think a lot of the family kinda feels bad for me because I just got out of an abusive relationship 2 yrs. ago. So I get the fake concern a lot.

Ah well. I like me just the way I am, so I'm not gonna change just so others will talk to me.

I felt the same way after a death. I put myself out there same thing happened with me. Going to events alone or being the third wheel. I know it sucks. I gave up for a while and with help of a therapist started trying again. I just recently met someone who is interested in me and we have just been hanging out together for now but it's made me feel a whole lot better. On top of that it turns out we went to school together 40yrs ago. So i would recommend you keep trying I know eventually something good will happen.

From my experience, being somebody different isn't such a great thing. I actually decided that I was going to get people to like me when I was younger because I had pretty much nothing in common with any people at my school. (I am 18 now but at the time I was in the 8th grade.) Practically everyone at the school knew my name, I had tons of "friends", and all of the girls had crushes on me. I was even Valdictorian of my 8th grade class. The younger kids looked up to me, peers always wanted me around, and my family admired me. Let me tell you what I saw in the mirror....nothing. I was miserable. I HATED who I was. Everyday I looked in the mirror and it pained me to see that face looking back at me. It got to the point where I couldn't even recognize myself. I know at times things may suck, but do yourself a favor and don't change who you are. I know things feel like they won't get better, but you gotta have faith. Don't give up.

The thing id that when I look in the mirror I see nothing. Only one person cared for me and with out my Aunt I'm nothing. I've been tn the hospitable for depression and was told countless times the only reason people even talked to me was because the liked my roommate. I really wish I knew why people desert me. Or just don't want to get to know me. Most of my life I've been this way and I'm only 36. I feel like I'm running out of time- to many people in my family died before 60.

Well I haven't ever felt that way, but I have learned what helped me when I was at one of my lowest points. Maybe its only me, but I find that helping other is an amazing way to overcome my loneliness. Finding a charity or just something that you can volunteer for and help others helped me. It is a great joy helping out others. Baseball was my entire life when I was younger, and I blew out my arm when I was 13. I came back and played for a few years in high school but I couldn't throw anymore. It was pretty upsetting. When I quit I was mad at everyone, why did this have to happen to me kind of thing. I decided (originally selfish intentions) that I loved baseball too much to leave it for good, so I began coaching a baseball team. At first it was just about keeping myself in contact with baseball, but after a while I realized how good it felt to help these kids out. I even coached two baseball teams this past year and I loved every minute of it. I know how completely off topic this seems, but what I'm saying is when I helped others the pain and sorrows of my life slowly went away. (I hope this helps even in the slightest.)

I know the feeling same old story....

billwfriend - you made me smile

I feel this way alot also.(((Hugs)))

Hey Girl,
I feel you! I know I went thru the same thing divorced parents when I was 2. Neglectful Mom & Dad. Too bad the parents could not have worked out the differences, I mean what were they thinking having more children?
But hey everyone is blessed with something that is EVERYONE. So your included in that
everyone.
The bad news is you have to figure out what it may be and that will take time,and I know this may sound corny but one day you'll meet some cool friends who "get" you and accept you for you.
Make sure that you don't compromise who you are to please anyone because guess what? it doesn't work & you'll only end up miserable.
I know cause I've been there kiddo!
Well I would love to chat online.
So whenever I'm on DS give me a call,send up the bat signal and I'll chat.
I always have good things to say.
I've been through alot.
As the late Tupac sang or rapped in his earlier song "Keep Your Head up" its a great inspirational song. Me, I only like his earlier stuff that song is one of my fave's
Be good to yourself.

I wrote a long message and it disappeared.
I feel similar to you. I am alone and feel that making friends isn't going to happen until I joined DS.

I think if one puts themself out there then the chances of making friends increases. Find someone similar to you, with loneliness issues, etc.

Take care and hope this and my other little message helps.

Thanks everybody and to quote a song " it seems that I'm not alone in being alone" (message in a bottle -The Police) thanks for the encouragement. I do a a few friends outside of DS but I still with them feel lonely- I think the depression among other things is to blame. I hope one day that this feeling will lesson, but it's something I have to work on.

Hi, I feel for you. I feel the same way! In fact, I couldnt of explained it better. I'm 41 and I've felt this way all my life. I remember being 12 in 8th grade and feeling depressed because I was all alone and lonely. I have tried so hard through the years. I have managed to have 'some' times or periods when I was able to lessen the lonliness and had friends, only to again be lonely. When I look back, I don't think I have really ever had a long term good friend. Basically everyone has used me or stabbed me in the back. And if that was not the case, I just felt pretty much ignored. I've been dealing with it at work. It is driving me crazy. I try not to be too sensitive, but I feel like I just keep seeing obvious body language that people don't really like me, or they just ignore me. I try to be so nice too. I don't think I am a dork either. I guess I'm just not their cup of tea and they don't find me exciting enough. I wish I was a different person too.