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Should I try anymore?

Em-Bel
Em-Bel
I'm a friendly person. I have friends, a girlfriend, family, and all but I find most days I'm just sitting on Facebook waiting for people to talk to me who never do. I'm not anti social but through depression and paranoia I've pulled away from many old friends. I'm trying to get back in touch with some people but I find none of them wanting to talk to me or messaging me back once then stopping. I just feel alone all the time and no amount of social contact seems enough. I feel like I should stop caring that no ones talking to me but I feel that's what made me lose them in the first place but if I start trying to care again I'll just be ignored. I'm tired of feeling so alone all the time, and feeling like I can't make any new friends and even being terrified of writing on here because I think no one will care. I also don't want to seem desperate or attention seeking or than annoying person who keeps trying to talk to people. Does anyone else feel this way? Or how do I get out of this bubble I put myself in?
billwfriend
billwfriend
I just do not use facebook for many reasons but much of what I see, hear is sadness that comes from facebook....people feeling friendless, people judging themselves by the things other people do, have and say....

I just say make friends in reality with those around you in physical proximity and forget social media sites....they are bad news...as for DS you find people here who help, people who plead for help, and people who have no agenda but like to be here....I kinda like it here and most are non judgemental here...
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is hard making true friends in reality
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're not alone in feeling what you're feeling. Acquaintances are easy on Facebook but finding friends that actually hear you is difficult
ginateresa
ginateresa
Bottom line.....NEVER GIVE UP!
BundlesofJoy
BundlesofJoy
You are not alone. My mantra is: To distance myself from those who have chosen to distance themselves from me for NO APPARENT reason or with reason. I don't want to appear desperate or like a dog searching for a bone. I want to at least leave with some dignity & self-respect.

I MUST blame our dependency on modern technology also. I've posted this time & time again. Eventho we can text on a cell or chat on a computer or iPad, Tablet or Laptop, that IS NOT human interaction & it CAN cause depression.

Instead of sitting in front of your computer, hoping someone will start chatting with you first, why not pick up your phone to call a friend & plan to see her/him face to face & maybe do something spontaneous? Be the initiator, make that call first or go & visit a friend. It will make you feel so much better. For those who u think want nothing to do with you, move on. God created more than one person in the world for a reason. Talk to strangers (in a safe environment) & make new friends or contact old friends & plan an outing.

Try using your computer for homework, research or business purposes ONLY for a few weeks & see the difference in your mood. If coming to DS gives u comfort by journaling, venting or asking for advice then that's okay too..

I hope this helps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
HI Em: The paranoia and depression are impacting your life and functioning and getting professional help can help you start to work through this. It will be about developing trust, not acting upon the paranoid beliefs in your current situations and more. Your future is really up to you.
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