Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Severe loneliness. Dont know what to do!

lenn88
lenn88
It has been almost 3 years since I moved back to Denver. The 3 years have been very tough for me. I have gone from having an active social life to basically having no life at all. My plan was to rekindle some old friendships when I moved back here. That didnt work out. People tried I just didnt put any effort into it since I was in this relationship
For 2 years or so I dated someone who I still love and care very much about. We had some problems but broke up for the wrong reasons. I think about her all the time. I wish I could talk to her one more time but she doesnt seem to be interested. It was nice to have someone to spend time with, eat dinner with, go to concerts with. She wanted to get married and I felt we still had some stuff to work on in therapy and it went terribly wrong.
Since we have broken up about 8 months ago, I have went through the worst part of my life. I had a mental break down. I quit my job thinking I had a new job. So I am now unemployed Me being on all sorts of different medications for depression that didnt work and barely being able to work made me quit my job prematurely. My job was stressful but me being in the state of mind I was in I couldnt do it anymore. I thought I had a new job and it ended up not working out. I quit thinking I had the job.

Now I have no career and I am so lost. I have tried online dating and have gone to some meetup groups. Girls dont seem very interested in meeting a guy with no job. All I want is a new job that I can be proud of so regain my confidence. I also think that I need to move back to where I was living three years ago. I miss my friends. This started out as a suicide letter but I figured I better post it before I do anything stupid.
penntucky
penntucky
its best to post how you feel, to get it out your system, instead of keeping it all bottled up, which can lead to doing anything stupid.
billwfriend
billwfriend
how are you in the searching for new job? Spending tons of effort sleeping in or actually searching hard and fast networking and everything you can to get reemployed? what type of work? do you have specialized skills for working from college or trade school?

I don't want to see you kill yourself...that is permanent with no redoing it over....plus it could not work and make you much worse off in disabled from trying and not able to live well ever again,...which would suck but does happen
blueirisnw
blueirisnw
Lenn: Your life has value; please do not give up. It sounds like you have had a lot of stressful events in a row; so it is normal for you to feel depressed. I am glad you came here to express your feelings. I hope you come to realize how strong and capable you are; so you can get past this dark place that is just temporary.
anneccleaver
anneccleaver
Please don't give up there are a lot of options out there sometimes you have to go through several jobs to find the right one. Lean on people when you need it , I had to quit two jobs because of nervous breakdowns myself and having to live with my mom at the moment. It really sucks. I was seriously almost gone too. I have figured out that it takes time to get back to where you were, I prematurely tried to force my way into working overtime when I should have probably had sometime off over last summer. It is a good sign that you are reaching out for help. If posting on here is not going to be enough try chatting : -- http://us11.chatzy.com/spprojectt --
HOPE1955
HOPE1955
I'm new to this group. It's strange. Though we are in totally different circumstances, except for the loneliness, we are in the same place. Obviously neither of us want to do anything stupid or we wouldn't be posting. It just seems so hard to go on and for some reason, easier to do something stupid. The depression site always talks about think of those you leave behind. I think that is something that needs to be considered if you have family or friends. If you are alone though, it doesn't enter into it. So, I guess in my clumsy way, what I'm trying to say is we have to really think about it so that we don't do something stupid. I'm not ready yet. I don't think you are either. You obviously have friends here. Rely on them to get yourself through. I'm not in a strong place either, but I can offer you my hand.
lenn88
lenn88
Thanks everyone for the reply's. Bwfriend: Have a Bachelors degree. I have worked in sales but I am looking to make a career change. How would you suggest networking?
deleted_user
deleted_user
What is your hesitation about moving back? Where did you live? If I had a place where I knew I had friends, I would go there. Don't end your life. I am going through the worst time of my life too, with some similarities to yours. You aren't worthless because you don't have a job. Another will come. Why not call your girlfriend back and just ask her if she'd like to try again? Couldn't hurt? Did the therapy make things worse?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try and think of the positives to get by. I am a widow at 36 having lost my partner also 36. It is extremely hard but you need to focus on something you are good at. If you can't find work at the moment try to do voluntary work. It will lighten your mood, be good on your resume and help others at the same time. Life is crap and depressing at times buyer have to plod on. I hope you feel better soon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Lenn: If you really look at it, you moved back to Denver and were going to rekindle some friendships, but ended up pushing them away. So it wasn't those people, it was you sabotaging efforts to re-establish the friendships.

So do you think you will do any better if you move back to the last place--I am guessing you won't and you'll sabotage friendships again.

Please, if you are even again in a relationship, always make time to spend with your friends because no relationships should have you focusing all of your time on her--women do the same thing too and often put all their time into their boyfriends and forget about their friends. You should make time to get together with the guys and always keep those friendships going.

I don't know if you can get those friendships back, but it would be worth trying it now.
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